Hello
I am going to talk about my relationship with my girlfriend, maybe someone has some positive suggestions for us.
We are just 6 weeks into our relationship but we were emailing each other for longer, so say 3 months in total. It was obvious right from the beginning that we were very similar in our views about life, love, religion etc, etc... So we decided to meet.
Our relationship started and things were great, we had the same humour, we wanted the same things and the sex was great. She has a young son and we started involving him in our activities. We are all getting along fine... and then she is pregnant. I am very happy about this, although I am approaching 40, it is something I have always wanted. We both wanted it, maybe not so soon, but we are both happy.
So... relationship going really well, some first trimester pains, but we are just comforting each other and watching movies etc. Then... a minor argument starts... a bit of nitpicking... voices raise... I am losing my temper so I take myself outside... if you leave you aint never coming back... you are a f#*king stupid cow... doors slam... water bottles fly... I disappear and switch my phone off.
4 hours pass... then abusive text messages... abusive emails (all the I hate you stuff!) and this goes on for about 3 days with me eventually throwing in the towel and dumping my pregnant girlfriend... I just wanted it to stop.
We finally start communicating in a civilised manner, we get together and say sorry, make love and it is as if nothing happened!
Obviously, we have to try to fix this for the sake of the babies health and ours.
My question, is this a case of us being too similar with the same temper thresholds, coping strategies, insecurities etc etc?, or is it a simple matter of us having to cope with too much pressure too early on?
Either way, is there any healthy strategy we can both try?