What would you do?

[IndiReloaded]

Yep, it's not worth arguing over. I am quite sure Hayward will shed some clarity into it.

Exactly. And, of course, I could be completely wrong in my own interpretation.

FWIW, I happen to think that interpretation isn't bad advice for the OP, whatever the source.

[Yggdrasil]

FWIW, I happen to think that interpretation isn't bad advice for the OP, whatever the source.

If it's meanth the way you explained it, it's good advice. But I simply can't read it that way, and believe me, I have been reading that line several times. To me it sounds like "I'll modify my behaviour to appease her". Anyways, I'll leave it up to him to shed some clarity on that one.

[IndiReloaded]

LOL, ohkay Ygg.

[whaywardj]

Yep, it's not worth arguing over. I am quite sure Hayward will shed some clarity into it.

Who? Me? Hell, most times, I'm not clear on where my own ass is. But Indi's correct, Ygg. I tend to boil things down to what appear to me to be their essentials. Anything more than that just confuses me. And she's also correct about where the focus on my remarks should be. No offense intended.

[Yggdrasil]

Who? Me? Hell, most times, I'm not clear on where my own ass is. But Indi's correct, Ygg. I tend to boil things down to what appear to me to be their essentials. Anything more than that just confuses me. And she's also correct about where the focus on my remarks should be. No offense intended.

None taken. It takes a lot to offend me.

I'll eventualy get the idea how to 'read' you. It's impossible to do so without engaging in communication and asking for clarification.

[whaywardj]

None taken. It takes a lot to offend me.

I'll eventualy get the idea how to 'read' you. It's impossible to do so without engaging in communication and asking for clarification.

Good. Have a look at

niteflights.haywardjohnson.com

Might hurry the getting of it along

Speaking of poorly worded

[Cbrider]

Am I the only one that is bothered by the thought of "modifying" MY behavior/self for someone else?

Seems to undermine the whole idea of dating and finding a compatible partner. Compromise is a different thing.

[Yggdrasil]

Am I the only one that is bothered by the thought of "modifying" MY behavior/self for someone else?

Seems to undermine the whole idea of dating and finding a compatible partner. Compromise is a different thing.

Gosh I thought we just had that one straightened out....

[Cbrider]

Gosh I thought we just had that one straightened out....

You're right, after rereading the entire thread it appears you have. I have a huge bias against controlling people, especially in relationships, and the word "modify" rubs me in all the wrong ways.

[Yggdrasil]

You're right, after rereading the entire thread it appears you have. I have a huge bias against controlling people, especially in relationships, and the word "modify" rubs me in all the wrong ways.

I had the same reaction. Seems like I'm not the only one who read it that way, so I think it's good this has been clarified.

[vashti]

Simple question...
You're girlfriend didn't want you going out drinking at clubs anymore...what would you do?

Another one, not so simple...
A friend you haven't spoken to in about 6 months...you start talking again and he asks if you wanna hang out. She doesn't like him at all as he was her ex and he hurt her really bad. She then tells you that if you go to his or become friends again then it's over. What's your response?

I think the reason WHY she wants you to stop hanging around in clubs is relevant. Are you an irresponsible drinker? How often do you do it, and do you have a history of behaving badly when you go?

As for hanging out with your girlfriend's ex, I really don't understand why you'd WANT to hang out with him, knowing all you do. Don't you care that he hurt your girlfriend? (BTW - what did he do to her?)