Yeah, he shoulda waited until she was 18, oh well.
Yeah, he shoulda waited until she was 18, oh well.
Why would he be watching teen porn? You are acting way over the top. He did not know what else do you want from him? It's in the past. I wouldn't tell you anything from now on if I were him. Look at how far you've gone.
I'd understand your reaction had he known she was underage. But guess what, he didnt. You keep saying it as if he knew she was 16 but yet he didn't.
..::.*Love is giving someone the ability to break your heart but trusting them not to*.::..
There are a lot of 16 year olds I'd like to bang, it's not like people naturally only find those of legal age attractive.
3...2...1...HAPPY 18th Birthday!
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Wow, you're hot.
Meh... I still find teenage boys to be mildly attractive... and I can't tell if they're 17 or 20 most of the time. I don't pursue them... but I do look. If a person has all the right attributes, 'looks' close to 18, and has the stance and very close mindset of someone older... it'll never cross your mind that they might be underage.
I've had people treat me like a little kid until I start speaking... then they go from "hey kid," to "yes ma'am"... all because my mindset is older than my perceived 'look.'
My dad is 50 years old... and 25 year old are attracted to him. When he tells them his age, they lose interest immediately.
Yes, some people do not look or act their age... yes, when men are broken they may look to sex as a means of boosting confidence... get over it. Or get over him.
It happened in the past... long before you arrived. He can't change it... and neither can you. He's a different person now... so what more do you want?
"The weakest soul, knowing its own weakness, and believing this truth that strength can only be developed by effort and practice, will, thus believing, at once begin to exert itself, and, adding effort to effort, patience to patience, and strength to strength, will never cease to develop, and will at last grow divinely strong."
- James Allen
If he has something in his past that makes you uncomfortable, you have every right to cut off the relationship without shame or judgement. I don't think anyone would blame you if this was something that you couldn't get past. (I'm not sure I could deal with something like this myself)
That being said, there is no way you can ever know what's in a guy's mind. If you do continue with the relationship, it would be best not to dwell on him thinking about underage girls and give him the benefit of the doubt that he doesn't have creepy tendencies. Otherwise it will nag at you and you'll only be making yourself miserable. If you stay with him, forgive him for his mistake and go on with your lives.
This is really all about how you choose to perceive him in relation to your happiness. Ask yourself this: What would give you the MOST peace of mind in this situation? To accept that you can't live with it and break up so you can move on? Or to forgive him and move on? Either way, you can't stay in limbo about it emotionally.
Last edited by starbuck; 25-06-09 at 06:56 PM.
“Inside every cynical person, there is a disappointed idealist”--George Carlin
i have a friend who is 16 and i am in my 30's and the girl is very much a child.
there can be no mistaking.
baby ya hustle. but me i hustle harder.