
Originally Posted by
SouthwestGuy
I did not ask why at first. After our divorce, I stupidly continued to fly to see her and stay with her much of the month. I was trying to stay her husband though we were divorced. Finally one night, I asked her why she did what she did. She told me she had needs that I could not fulfill. Talk about a kick in the head!
She told me that I should have seen it coming. Once a woman starts dedicating her attention to others, she is pretty much done with the person she is with So, I guess I look for that to happen now.
I think that was a very selfish and poisonous lie for your ex wife to tell you in order to "justify" her behavior and dump her venomous choices on you.
In reality (outside of her lies) a woman tells a guy she is no longer interested in up front and they go their separate ways. No cheating happens. Some wayward women who want the best of both worlds don't and she just happened to be one of them. Because that's what cheating really is, it's a manifestation of hardcore selfishness of a person who wants to get something from everywhere through lies and manipulation of other people. Don't accept her lies and project them onto other women like she probably wants you too. Open up to the truth that attention is part of every day human interaction and the woman who is worthy of you, will let you know if she is no longer interested in you. Don't be scared. If you truly believe the woman you found is good, she will never do this to you like your wicked ex wife did.
Don't cry, don't regret and don't blame
Weak find the whip, willing find freedom
Towards the sun, carry your name
In warm hands you are given
Ask the wind for the way
Uncertainty's gone, your path will unravel
Accept all as it is and do not blame
God or the Devil
~Born to Live - Mavrik~