Hey guys,
I'm a 25 year old female. And my bf is 31.
I'm having some issues with my bf in the bed and thought I would ask for some input. In hopes someone could explain.
The two of us have really high sex drives and tend to have sex quite often. However I am beginning to get bored of it.
We have been dating for a little over 2 months now. I notice that he has issues with his erection. EVERYTIME we have sex, it starts off by me giving him a blow-job that lasts 30 mins MINIMUM. He says he cannot and has never came by oral sex before. (although I have accomplished this once) I thought that odd, but brushed it off.
Afterwards, we have sex. ALWAYS doggy-style or me laying on top of him so he can thrust upwards. (But I cant move, or he'll lose the errection) and this too lasts a minimum of an hour. With no ejaculation in between. Ive tried to get on top and work my magic, but he gets limp instantly. I know I dont suck at it, because Ive never had problems like this ever before, with anyone else. I asked him why this was, and he said that my vagina tightens up wayyy too much and its like it takes on new form?? And then he gets scared of hurting his penis and gets soft.
Often I will lay in doggy for a good hour while he busts his ass off in sweat trying to cum. Sometimes he can, sometimes he can't.
The other night he stopped penatrating me analy after an hour to stand up and put some porn on and masturbate. He's been watching is more often. It seems like he can cum faster/better with porn. He got frustrated because he couldnt cum and I said something to him. He has been getting everything he wants, plus some for 7 weeks, and he has NEVER gone down on me once. I can't cum unless it's from oral sex. I told him and he said he didnt think I liked it. ( I never gave that impression once) That was an excuse of course. I told him Im frustrated that Im never cumming. He said now that he knew, he would. Well he hasn't.
As you can see our sexual relationship is frustrating beyond. I have to go home and mastubate without him, in order to get off.
Can someone please explain to me:
why this guy takes so long to cum?
Why is it that when I am on top, he loses his errection?
What does he mean about my vagina taking on new form and hurting him?
Is he watching porn because I'm not doing something right?
How can someone not ejactulate form oral sex?
And if he doesnt like giving oral, why is he telling me he loves it and and not doing it?
Im at my whitts end and think Im gonna break it off with him. This is far too overwhelming and frustrating. He makes me feel as though Im not adaquate.
Anxiously awaiting for your replies.