How to get a guy to CHILL OUT?

[Bumble_bee]

oh I really hope you do not end up going through what I did, but as a precaution, make sure you let your friends and family know about this, and if you have to go somewhere, make sure at least 1 person knows where you are going to be....as I said I really hope he gets the hint, but I had such a horrible experience, my friends being there was what probably saved my LIFE...(he was a complete headcase)....

don't panic just yet, you caught on real quick, I didn't ..

[pisces7378]

tell him you decided to go back to your ex boyfriend. The cop.

I really really have to say that lying is always the wrong thing. If you don't give him a stonewall, utter rejection then he will squirm and squirm until he figures out someway that it doesn't matter. If it's a boyfriend, he'll pull some, "Okay, I'll wait." kind of thing, but of course "wait" means call you everyday.

You shouldn't have invited him over. And you certainly should not have allowed him to sleep on your couch. These are those world famous MIXED SIGNALS that girls send guys. "You want to come over?" but then "I really think we shouldn't see each other." but then "I guess you can stay on the couch." but then "Get the hell out of my house dude!"

You really need to establish firm, clear, definable, and impenetrable boundaries with this guy (and with the rest of your life for that matter), and stick to these boundaries; they are all you really have. From here on out, this kid should never hear your voice again. TEXT him that it is over, then delete him, or change your number, or whatever.

But don't miss this opportunity to grow and learn from this. You acted so surprised when he was about to kiss your face as you slept. If you invited a Tiger into your living room, and it scratched a big hole in your couch, would you be surprised? Hell no! It's a tiger! Well you saw that this kid was the way he was, but you invited him into your home, and are now acting surprised that he did what he just does.

You are a sweet person, and the fact that he is the way he is, isn't your fault. But grow up and learn from this.

[Gigabitch]

Well, here's what I would do: I would ask him to meet me in a public place and I would bring a friend. My friend and I would tell him that the way he's been behaving is obsessive, creepy and unacceptable. I would tell him that he had blown it and explain exactly why.

Then I would tell him not to contact me ever again. None of this "slow down" bullshit or "let's just be friends".

For the next six months I would make damned sure I was NEVER alone, especially at night or in secluded areas. I might also consider making a police report, just in case I went missing.

You're taking this all too lightly. I've had a stalker before and it's far from flattering. It's terrifying. This guy is definitely stalker material, so you should take this seriously. He's probably mentally ill and off his meds.

[misombra]

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