Will she come back?

[slysteal]

This is gonna be a long post i hope someone will answer this. My girlfriend and i have been dating for a year. She is a year younger than me, and we started dating in November of last year. She went to the same elementary school as me, and we've known OF each other for a while. I knew her because she was really flirty and she went out with my buddy kyle. We started going out my senior year in high school last november and her junior year.

It was perfect, still thinking about i get chills. We did everything together, which meant i gave everything to her. I stopped calling my friends and i hung out with her EVERY weekend. We would go to her house watch movies play video games, the usual and her parents liked me but it was tough because her dad is a cop and her mom was a very popular teacher at my school. (scary i know)

After about 4 months of dating we finally gave up both our v-cards to each other. And things still were very very good. The only thing that i can complain about was her flirting, she flirted with everyone and i always got jealous and she loved when i got jealous so it became natural to me. I graduated and things started changing a little because i started to want to hang out with my friends because they were leaving, and i was going to a community college to play a sport close by. She got very needy and i told her we cant do this anymore we are wanting different things.

Two weeks later we got back together and i noticed ALL my old friends( who were in her grade) started texting her. I told one of the guys kyle to stop texting brooke, and he was like i thought we were friends and i told him we werent because he hasn't called me in like 7-8 months. My GF and i were good again and then school started. It was really hard to see her because im very busy at school and with sports so i couldnt see her as much. She started to hang out with her friends alot more and i got really jealous. All her friends(which are all guys, her best friend is a girl) started to tell her how much of a doush bag i am and how she shouldnt be going out with me. When she told me i told her to fight it back and she says its too hard because their are like 5 of them. So i kind of ignored it thinking they would stop. But this kyle guy started texting her more and more and i told her it was really bugging me and i would get mad at her alot because of it. Now thinking of it it was stupid because i know she would never cheat on me ever. She always told me how much she loved me and how much she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me. We talked about marriage and going to the same college as her when she goes to college. But then for about 2 weeks she started getting really shady, she lied to me about kyle about really dumb stuff like how she doesnt text him and doesnt give a * * * * about him and its not worth fighting over. She would even lie about giving him a ride home from places with her friends, when i wouldn't get as mad if she told me but i would still get mad.

Jealousy kind of took over me and everytime we hung out i was mad about SOMETHING. I could tell she was acting really weird. This is a week away from our year anniversary, and her homecoming. She tells me she needs a break because it isn't right at this time. She told me how i never invited her over to my house and how big family is to her, and i told her that is so fixable. She said she felt in her heart that it wasn't right. So i respected that and i told her that i wont talk to her and shell need to talk to me. The next morning i couldnt handle it and texted her saying like i wish i could say something to make this work again. And then i got really confused because some things didnt add up. She told me she still loved me and cared for me so i called her again that night and said this is so fixable like we need to work on this and not give up. And she said "I dont feel the same about you anymore" and i was crushed...and i mean crushed. I never though she would do this to me.

So the next night i called her again telling her the things i would do to get her back, such as not get as jealous when she hangs out with her buddies, start hanging out with her friends more, invite her over more, take her to more places. I told her that i was gonna fight for her and i wasn't gonna let her give up. Then things were ok we both stopped crying and talked about what were gonna be for halloween and stuff, and she told me that she couldnt wait to see my dog when we got back together, and she told me when she said we were gonna be together forever she meant it. I didnt want to question anything so i let it be and we didnt talk for 2 nights the most we have ever stopped talking.

I go to her school to practice with the volleyball team and to see her to make her see that look in my eyes to try and see what i was feeling. Its hard to explain but if she saw me she would maybe get those feelings again. She didnt look at me directly but she saw me i know she did because she asked my friend if i left yet. I was talking to her friend all day and her friend was telling me how there was no way of getting back together and it really got to me because my gf was telling me how we will just not right now and stuff like that. I started to realize maybe her best friend is influencing the situation because without my GF she would be nothing. MY GF made her become so popular and i can so see her best friend sayying like oh you can do so much better stop talking to him hes always mad at you and stuff.

I saw my GF that night at this burger place and she didnt even look at me. She told people that we were broken up when i thought we were on a break. So my buddy called her that night and was like hey what are you thinking and she told him that we are done i dont want to be with him anymore, How can i stay in a relationship and not be happy? And stuff like that. I dont know what to do i am a mess i dont want to go out i havent eaten since she broke up with me. What do you think i should do because i know that she will figure it out but im scared she wont? What if she starts liking that Kyle guy? Because they have become so close now. There are so many things going on in my head. Please somone help me!

[Calli]

Personally. I'd have ****ed that Kyle guy up when I heard about him bitching about me to my girlfreind and texting her.

[thechampanon]

If she likes Kyle it's too late. But also means her liking someone else was inevitable.

The smartest thing is to move on.

But if you want to be hopeful I think that you should go and meet with her, have a talk with her, and remind her of the good times you have, and why she loves you. Don't insist on why she SHOULD love you. Confidently insist she does but the feelings are buried by other ones.

[slysteal]

So i decided just to ignore her and make her come back it has worked to a certain extent. She is telling me how she wants to talk to her family and see what they think. She also talked to one of my really good friends and told her that she really messed up and she thought she had feelings for this kyle faggot but didn't. And that her best friend pushed her into liking him. Am i supposed to be happy or mad, cause now i feel like shes coming back to me cause she couldn't make it with deven. We havent since monday night so i dont know how long this will take, but i feel like she needs to fight for me but isn't.