I just don't get it...

[Cain]

I am holding out for you Cain

One day, I will make merry to your sweet ivory hole

Come visit me, stud.

[Charlie Boy II]

that's just the way girls work. She probably liked the attention and then get sour when she realised you'd moved on.

I guarantee if you'd kept on pursuing that girl (A or B I can't remember, give them f-cking names, I always give girls I'm seeing fake names on here) anyway, you'd be in exactly the same spot. It's not about you, it's about her need to feel desired.

And I'm talking about younger girls here. I know they grow up.

[Cain]

It happens. The girl I'm with now is obviously more mature than the other, so I made the right decision.

[Cain]

I still don't understand women. They confuse the living shit out of me.

The girl I recently started dating is someone I've been talking to for a couple of months, so we had a base friendship and had dated for a while before we were officially together. She eventually said she loved me and that she fell in love with me. She says I fought for her more than any other guy ever has (which is why we went from friendship to dating, since we both didn't intend for it to happen), and that I've treated her better than any guy ever has.

But we broke up a couple of days ago.

She doesn't deserve me. She has so much stuff going on right now that she can't handle a relationship or even dating and she wants me to move on because she doesn't want to hurt me again and she thinks I deserve better. That's what she told me.

I don't get it. What's with this bullshit?

The ex I first posted about here when I started, the one I went on for months about... she regretted her decision to leave me. She practically told me that yesterday when she said you don't realize what you had until it's gone. Why am I always the one that teaches that lesson?

[misombra]

she probably forgot what a dick you were.

[Cain]

That's ironic. I actually told her that I needed to start being more of a dick in order to keep a girl. She said, "please don't do that."

Anyways, I've talked to the girl since this last post. Things are more clear. I'm going to chalk this up to a woman is just extremely confused when she's young and they have to repeat a mistake in order to learn from it.

[Charlie Boy II]

it's true, you might be being too nice. You have to be a bit of an asshole. Sometimes when you upset a girl, it's like you make her love you more.

[CocoChanel]

You have to be careful with that technique though.
You must know when to stop and how much is too much.

[Charlie Boy II]

I think it's pretty rare a girl will leave you over bad/selfish behaviour. It almost never happens.

[Mish]

She doesn't deserve me. She has so much stuff going on right now that she can't handle a relationship or even dating and she wants me to move on because she doesn't want to hurt me again and she thinks I deserve better. That's what she told me.

Yeah, I've heard that one before.

Read it as: "I don't like you and we're not compatible together, but I don't have enough self confidence to tell you that and I'm too weak and too scared of feeling guilty to upset you with the truth."

I've had a girl tell me that once and I told her I don't accept that. So then the real reason came out. There is always the real reason.

[Illusional]

well have you moved on already?? i know that i have haha.

raverboy

[Cain]

That didn't last long. After a couple of days of me not being there, she told me that she made a huge mistake and wants to be with me again. My biggest concern is that it happened once. I'm willing to give her another shot, since it's not like she went off and did anything crazy while broken up, but if it happens again then I'm likely going to walk.

[Illusional]

haha... i never learned after the first time. i didn't learn the second time. and finally "after" the third time, i finally learned... silly me.

raverboy