Am I doing the right thing?

[miisty]

I've been good friends with this guy for almost two years. At the beginning of our relationship, we dated briefly but it didn't work out due to something that wasn't his nor my fault. Recently, he decided he wanted to have sex with me. But I find out he isn't in it for a relationship - just sex. He is a virgin. I have some experience with men (More with women, ha) but am a virgin. He doesn't want to date me. He doesn't even want foreplay. He just wants me to come over to his house, lock the door, get naked, and have sex. And I want sex, I do. But not like this. I have the feeling I'm just a booty call. Once he sees me naked and satisfies himself, he's done.

I've agreed to sex. But should I reconsider? I want to be his first because he is dear to me, but I don't want him to be my first mindless screw just because he didn't want to be a virgin anymore.
What are your thoughts on this?

[FullofSighs]

Blow him off, don't let him use you like that. It's complete nonsense. And plus i really doubt he is a virgin, probably just saying that just to make it easier to get into your pants and all.

[miisty]

No, I'm positive he is a virgin. I'd bet my life on it, actually.

But... I guess I wanted my first time to sort of mean something to me, not someone else. I have no reason to have sex with him. It's for his own selfish desire.
How would I go about to telling him that I think I'm a booty call and it's not going to happen? We are/or were great friends. The best of friends, actually. But this sudden change of attitude is making me doubt everything.

[FullofSighs]

Ya know, he is just using you. Whether virgin or not, thats what he is doing. And you should not let him degrade you like that at all. Don't worry about being mean or rude. You deserve to have your first time to be a great time. So basically tell him to f off. Not necessarily like that but he does need to get it through his head he can't just use women like that. And another thing, after you tell him, don't let him try to convince you that he will stay/be with you still after it. He will still be looking for a one night stand. It would be best if you tell him, and then forget about him and move on.

Not worth even wasting your breath on.

[Swan]

I was in a very similar situation when I was a virgin. And he was a very good friend of mine and we had a agreed to be eachother's first. But he was the exact same way and the more I thought about it the more it didn't feel like that I wanted... I wanted it to be specail, and loving.
So I didn't do it, and low and behold about 3 months later I found someone that I trusted completely and who actually took care of my needs instead of being selfish and using you.


Trust me.
You've held it this long, hold on a little longer and find what you're REALLY looking for.


I was in a hurry when I wrote this... forgive any sentences that may have missing or added words hahaha.