Ok men, I need your input-what should I do?

[LatinoItaliano]

There is another man in my life that I am quiet involved with for over a year. the problem is he has a gf. she now knows that he is seeing me and that he loves me. she is deeply hurt and furious but she loves him too much to break up with him or risk loosing him by insisting that he give me up which he would't do.

We have been deeping our connection and our relationship over time and our love has grown but, but he still loves her even though she doesn't make him happy.

Right now she has become emotionally unstable over his cheating and continuing to see me and love me. He feels like he owes it to her to be there to stabilize her and help her feel more secure and confident in herself. This means he has to cut back on the amount of time he can spend with me for the time being.

He still intends to see me but not as much. He calls me everyday but I am furious and feel like telling him to finish his business with her and then call me but meanwhile I am not interested in crumbs. After the tremendous sexual and emotional intimacy we share the fact that he is still worried about her makes me livid!

what shoud I do?

I don't feel one bit sorry for you. You knew he was seeing someone else, yet stayed with him?

How would you feel if someone you 'loved' was seeing someone behind your back?

You're too immature to be in any kind of a relationship now, so I'd say break it off with him and sincerely apologize to his girlfriend if/when you see her.

Both of you lack respect for this other girls' feelings, so you're both idiots. If the same happens to you one day, it's not going to be fun.

Don't even mention the word "love" because you both are way too childish to even comprehend the meaning of the word.

[RonHH]

If you were the other girl What would you do?

[Heratriumphant]

Catch up people!

Rose did the right thing.

Now stop slapping her around and give her a pat on the back.

[bluesummer]

She sounds exactly like he chick my ex was cheating on me with.

[NoName101]

dont even bother with him no more.

[rose36]

Ok, next item is closure. We had planned to have it in person. But his gf nixed that idea and told my ex that she would not allow it and that we had to do it over the phone. while he would rather do it person, he feels that he has to go along with her because she doesn't trust him alone with me. but I feel that he should be man enough to stand up to her and say he needs to do this in person and nothing will happen between us. Nothing will happen. it is not in either of our's best interest. he would not risk lying to her again and it's not in my interest. Over the phone will feel like nothing. it will not feel like closure after 15 years we will be saying goodbye forever! thoughts?

[Chupacabras]

It's not all about you. You and her boyfriend have treated her so poorly that I'm amazed she's allowing even a phone call. She has to have the worst self-esteem ever to put up with the both of your shit.

[girl68]

Closure does not have to be done in person. Please give me a break. You might not want to have sex with him during this closure meeting. But you want to touch him, hug him, hold his hand. Who are you trying to kid? Becasue you're not kidding us and you're not kidding his gf.

[Lite]

Wow, you're a pathetic man-stealing piece of trash. And she's just as pathetic as you and your boyfriend for even tolerating such low-life sh*t from her man.

Why don't you do yourself a favor and stop ****ing other people over as a lifestyle.

Why would you even come here and write this crap and ask for advice? You know what the right thing to do is, and yet you're here hoping we'll tell you that what you're doing is A) OK, or B) support you on it.


You don't respect yourself, you don't respect strangers, and you don't respect relationships because you're f*cking with the relationships of other people.

[rose36]

WOW! pretty tough gang here! you don't even know me as a whole person or my history. This is just an anomaly in my life. Where do you get off judging me as though I've murdered 1,000 innocent people or something. I can't take this kind of judegmental commentary seriously. I've done the right thing and now I get huge slaps in the face!!! NOT helpful at all!! Who kicked you around in your childhood?!

[girl68]

You did do the right thing. But you're going backwards to that should you decide that you *NEED* to see him to get your closure.

[flea]

You did do the right thing. But you're going backwards to that should you decide that you *NEED* to see him to get your closure.

+1

I thought this was over with rose...

[chump4u]

WOW! pretty tough gang here! you don't even know me as a whole person or my history. This is just an anomaly in my life. Where do you get off judging me as though I've murdered 1,000 innocent people or something. I can't take this kind of judegmental commentary seriously. I've done the right thing and now I get huge slaps in the face!!! NOT helpful at all!! Who kicked you around in your childhood?!

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Yes, you did the right thing. That's true. The "right thing" you did was to correct your poor judgment and predatory behavior. But you oughtn't to congratulate yourself quite as much as you're doing. You need to recognize and remember that you wouldn't have had to "do the right thing" if you hadn't done the very, very wrong thing first.