does CRYING OUT YOUR HEART work?

[loverman1]

I've been in relationship for a few months and i love her very much, but she does'nt feel the same, i dont think so anyway. She told me about a week ago that she loved me, but last night she said that we will never be together.

This is not the first time this has happened, we get very close and then she will change her mind again. I've told her that i love her, but i've never told her that i'm so in love, i never told her about all the things i did for her, which includes ...learning lithuanian, writing hours of poetry, and i spent weeks and months working very hard on my speech, becuase i suffer from having a stutter which makes life so hard sometimes. I've never told her how much i need her, and how much i cry over her. I always tell her "dont worry about hurting me" and i never say all the things what i do for her, she does'nt know about them.

Do you think i should tell her everything? would it make a positive or negative difference?

i know people will tell me to let go of her, but i know she cares about me and we may have a small chance if i can find the heart to give myself again?

she's away in lithuania now for 3 weeks, i've had crazy ideas about going over there and telling everything, but my friends tell me its a bad idea, but its what my heart sometimes says. What do you think about this?

And she is worth it, she is so beutiful in everyway..i feel lost tonight because i know the odds are against me, but its not time to let go, she comes back in a few weeks to the place were i work, so we will meet again, and maybe even go out a friends shopping. We wont lose are friendship i hope, i know i mean something to her.

Is it good to tell everything?

[girl68]

Of course it does...

*only in the privacy of your own home*

[nonconformist]

Well you should tell her everything. Don't cry to her though about how much you need her and how you'll miss her and all that, forget that noise. Let her know how much you do for her and let her know how she'll never find another guy that would do as much for her as you do for her, not as explicitly as I just said but sudden hints. Basically you want to present yourself as a strong individual who will be a great "lover and supporter".

[cidey831]

Well have you looked at things from her point of view? maybe she doesnt want to commit because she is probly affraid of something. make sure you know wht that is. alot of females like to shield themselves from hurt in the past and therefore do not want the same thing to happen to them in the future. she is probly holding back. i think she loves you but she is affraid. find out WHY!

[loverman1]

but can a girl tell a guy that she loves him, but just mean it as friends?

she said "we will never be together never"

[Heratriumphant]

Yes, people tell their friends they love them.

From your other thread it does NOT sound like you were EVER in a relationship with this woman.

It's all been in your head.

If you keep pushing it she's going to find you creepy.

For your own sanity break all contact with this woman.

[Sanctuary]

I'm taking things out of context here but..

You should never cry in front of a girl that you like.

If you gotta cry, you do it in the shower where she can't possibly hear you.

You are a man. You are a source of strength for her. Hold your shit together for ****s sake.

But if you do show emotion every once in a while I guess that makes you endearing. But someone that just whines and cries. Oh man lol