Here Is A Fun One...

[lilly1185]

So if you get yourself involved sexually in a new relationship, is it wise to toss a bottle of KY/Astoglide/Uberlube/ect... out and buy a new one for the new relationship?

I, personally, would get a little freaked out by this notion (it's a her-vag-would-be-touching-mine kinda thing...), but wanted others to weigh in (and how I could possibly convey this without seeming like I'm freaking out about him having sex before me- let me announce for peace of mind, no I don't care and it doesn't bother me).

So, freaky? Not freaky?

**edit; sorry about the typo, there shouldn't be an "e" in the subject line.

*edit* Giga fixed it

[IndiReloaded]

Sure get a new tube. And boil his dick for 3 minutes as well. That should kill any bugs she gave him.

[carl1222]

So if you get yourself involved sexually in a new relationship, is it wise to toss a bottle of KY/Astoglide/Uberlube/ect... out and buy a new one for the new relationship?

I, personally, would get a little freaked out by this notion (it's a her-vag-would-be-touching-mine kinda thing...), but wanted others to weigh in (and how I could possibly convey this without seeming like I'm freaking out about him having sex before me- let me announce for peace of mind, no I don't care and it doesn't bother me).

So, freaky? Not freaky?

**edit; sorry about the typo, there shouldn't be an "e" in the subject line.

I would NEVER bring a half-empty bottle of lube (or half-empty box of condoms for that matter) into a new relationship ... that would be tacky. Don't bring it up ... just get some replacements and throw the old ones away.

Carl.

ps I would have answered more quickly, but I got hung up on the image of "it's a her-vag-would-be-touching-mine kinda thing"

[lilly1185]

Sure get a new tube. And boil his dick for 3 minutes as well. That should kill any bugs she gave him.

LOL that sounds painful. Lucky for me, it's been a few months since they've been together.

[qwertz]

what kind of question is this?

Do you really need it answering?

I say bleach rather than boil

[lilly1185]

See, I ask because I know guys can be...flaky. And I wanted to just make sure it wasn't a me-thing rather than a universal "When the relationship ends, everything- including lube goes" thing.

Apparently, it is the latter.

[vashti]

I can honestly say I have never thought about this before. Then again, it's never come up. i suppose I am stumped...

Whose responsibility is it to buy lube, anyway?

[lilly1185]

Usually, I take it upon myself to buy. But the subject came up in conversation, and he was all "Oh, I already have some,"
to which I reacted (maybe over?) "If it's from your ex, junk it, I'll pick up more."
Which spawned a whole defensive "It's not like I haven't had sex before" discussion.
By discussion I mean, I think he misinterp'd something I'd said and ranted for 2 minutes about how he was in a LTR (5 years) and yes he was sexually active.

I've been mulling over how to re-visit this topic without putting him off or agitating an already awkward situation (yet he can explain blue balls, how it happens, the effects of, oh yea and whiskey dick in all seriousness without getting weird...). The fact is, I don't care if he's had sex before, so have I. In fact, my tally ranks higher than his (I was on the funbus earlier than he was AND haven't had a relationship last more than 2 years). So maybe there is just something deeper here, maybe I'm over anaylsing it, or maybe he really did just misinterpret me.

[vashti]

i think it's weirder that he become upset about you wanting to replace it than it was for you to ask for it to be replaced. (i hope that made sense.)

[lilly1185]

I dunno, we'd already covered the topic of "Are you sure I'm not a rebound?"
My insecurity completely.

It's weird because we have tons of fun together,
common interests, video games, webcomics and all, even down to lolling at the same web-flash meme's and internet crazes.
We think alike, I was suspicious for a while he was hyping up his personality to match mine, but the same thoughts pop out of our mouths at the same time (frequently) that makes me think it's sort of not true.

Maybe my issue here is really this; I'm still worried I'm the rebound, and he's not aware that I am.
He says their break up was mutual (I try to avoid talking about past relationships, I really do), but that she'd cheated on him at a party (making out, no sex involved- got sort of edgy when I commented "bitches lie") and mentioned it still hurt him a little to talk about.
Then again, what break up is ever REALLY mutual?

He still has photos of her on his myspace (I never really thought about it, or cared much because it's myspace.)
He's got a corkboard in his kitchen with a photo of her on it (w/e maybe he doesn't look at it a lot)
*SIGH*

OK Mega-huge long post time; I recently moved back to Florida and stagnated for a month or two since I have no friends down here. Keep in mind I am a single mum. I happened to be on AIM one day when a screen name popped up I hadn't seen in years, being said guy so I im'd him. We went to highschool together but only talked since we worked on the same project in English.
So it's been a little over 5 years now since I've talked to him. They'd broken up a month, maybe 2 when we started talking and hanging out.
I go over to visit him, we talk.
I visit him the next night, we have fun, we have sex, we talk.

We don't have sex for a couple of weeks, I'm just trying to enjoy myself with him and he the same when we get around to the conversation of maybe making our one-time hook up a more exclusive relationship. He told me I was just too awesome (I'm hot + I like video games + I have a good sense of humour) to let slip through his fingers.
I'm *STILL* trying to decide if he was just lonely and trying to fill the void, or if he was horny and wanted to make a good thing last.

We don't see eachother everyday, but text. A LOT. Get on WOW a couple nights a week. He says he's not weirded out by my son (I have no way of gauging this). We can have honest, frank, discussions about politics and sex, mental issues, ect.
I just refuse to ask about past relationships. Even though I'm getting more and more worried about certain things. I don't want to appear jealous, obsessive or just a freak. Or clingy. Or any other number of weird things.
We mesh well, and sex is freaking out of this world.

In fact, we get a long great. I'm just worried that maybe he isn't ready for(or I don't know how to handle) a relationship.
So there.
Who cares to read THIS and weigh in?

[bloodtippedrose]

So if you get yourself involved sexually in a new relationship, is it wise to toss a bottle of KY/Astoglide/Uberlube/ect... out and buy a new one for the new relationship?

I own a trunk full of sex treasures. When entering a new sexual relationship I dig out one of my many sample bottles or open a new bottle (my fav being adam and eve classic or ID because theyre not very sticky, subtle taste, doesnt dry quickly, anal or vaginal..) but I always keep my half used bottles.

Eventually when we're deep enough into the relationship he will dig through my trunk and use the rest of my half-bottles on himself or with his fleshlight -_- he doesnt seem to care where theyve been before. mind you theyre not sticky and gross

[vashti]

Lilly - it sounds kind of silly to me that you guys would argue about lube when there are such big questions looming in the background.

And yes, I'd be worried about the long term prognosis of this relationship. He had only just broken up with someone else when he was on to you, and you had sex before you really got to know each other.

[lilly1185]

Lilly - it sounds kind of silly to me that you guys would argue about lube when there are such big questions looming in the background.

And yes, I'd be worried about the long term prognosis of this relationship. He had only just broken up with someone else when he was on to you, and you had sex before you really got to know each other.

It was SUPPPoooooooosed to only be a one-time thing, but we continued to hang out and clicked on a multitude of levels.

I don't know how often that happens....

[chump4u]

I own a trunk full of sex treasures. When entering a new sexual relationship I dig out one of my many sample bottles or open a new bottle (my fav being adam and eve classic or ID because theyre not very sticky, subtle taste, doesnt dry quickly, anal or vaginal..) but I always keep my half used bottles.

Eventually when we're deep enough into the relationship he will dig through my trunk and use the rest of my half-bottles on himself or with his fleshlight -_- he doesnt seem to care where theyve been before. mind you theyre not sticky and gross

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Your...boyfriend...has...a...Fleshlight!?!.

And you haven't shot him...or yourself?

[lilly1185]

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Your...boyfriend...has...a...Fleshlight!?!.

And you haven't shot him...or yourself?

LOL I wouldn't care if my s/o had a fleshlight. They make me lol.