What the fcuk?!!!

[Perryville]

Coco, I was being flippant, and I apologize. Why does he have this opinion of your behavior? What have you done to make him think this? I'm new here and maybe you can bring me up to speed.

[Heratriumphant]

WTF? He took your babygirl away without discussing it? Have you beat the kid or developed a drug problem? Short of that his actions are just psycho.

If I were you I'd pack my shit NOW.

If your goddaughter is better off living with your parents, then chances are you would be too.

[IndiReloaded]

I'm getting deja vu from this thread...

[CocoChanel]

WTF? He took your babygirl away without discussing it? Have you beat the kid or developed a drug problem? Short of that his actions are just psycho.

If I were you I'd pack my shit NOW.

If your goddaughter is better off living with your parents, then chances are you would be too.

No I have never beaten her. I've never mistreated her. We are both her godparents and we should have talked about it before he just... decided to do it. He claims he is doing it to help me and give me motivation to get better but it just devastated me and I've been really sad about it.

[CocoChanel]

I'm getting deja vu from this thread...

I know... this is a big I told you so. Maybe I deserve all of this or something. Idk. I'm really ****ed up about this. I don't know what to do or say.

[Heratriumphant]

I don't know what to do or say.

Pack your stuff and say "Mom, Dad...can I stay with you for awhile?"

Anything else and you've told this man he can control you body and soul for the rest of your life.

[Perryville]

If not Mom and Dad, do you have any friends you could stay with, who are aware of what's going on?

[CocoChanel]

No. A lot of them don't know what's going on because I don't talk to them about anything. They aren't the... go to advice for... kind of friends. My best friend who was living here for a little bit knows a little but not much. He thinks Anako has my best interest at heart.

[shheadz]

He comes home from work... sometimes he is super moody and he is just mean and cold. No therapy shit then. But when I come home angry or upset he acts like I need an intervention. He always accuses me of being cold and says I am not affectionate. But he always says this when it's being done to him. When he does it to me... I'm supposed to be okay with it.

Hrm.. Your guy sounds a bit like me. Sometimes I get mad at people for things I'm doing myself, like the way it's ok for him to come up from work grumpy, but it's not ok for you to do the same. If I was pissed/stressed, I'd expect my girl to support me -- even if that means leaving me alone -- but if she was pissed/stressed, I'd be thinking "What is this b*tches f***ing problem?!".

I also have a tendency to blame people for actions I'm doing myself. Like blaming my girl for not being affectionate enough, only to realize later that it's really been me that hasn't been very affectionate, and she in fact has been very affectionate. I read an article on Ego/Id a while back, and it said the things we hate about other people tend to be things we secretly hate about ourselves. I think that's related, as the things I'm blaming other people for could be things I'm subconsciously hating about myself.

For me this all comes from a selfish attitude, and I don't mean to be "emotionally abusive". Maybe it's because I was an only child, and I got everything I wanted without having to give back, or having to share. blah blah blah.. I dunno, I'm not a psychologist. I do know that once I recognized this behavior in myself, I've been able to stop it. So have you called your guy out on his double-standard BS? He may not be aware that he's doing it.

[qwertz]

. He thinks Anako has my best interest at heart.

Meaning you dont think he does? if thats the case then leave now and dont look back.

Was your god daughter living with you full time? If there is tension and arguments between you two, then it sounds like he did the best thing sending her to your mums.

Im sure you know this, but children need stability in there lives, if you are serious about looking after her, then you need to decide what is best for HER.

[misombra]

who is her legal guardian?

[valhensing]

I just want to say men are so fcuking stupid sometimes and I just want to throw bricks at them. They sneak behind your backs and do shit but if you did it to them they would leave you in a heartbeat. Yes I'm venting right now so just be easy. Because my fiance or whatever the **** he is to me... is a douche and I'm sick of him being a cock. Saying things like... I'm just doing it because it's best for us. Dol I not exist in this relationshp? Why can't he talk to me about things before he goes and does something drastic. I have a say so too. he's not my damn daddy and I don't need him making decisions for me like I'm a health hazard. Now all of a sudden because he's all "Ive been in therapy longer" he thinks he's more stable than I am. What the fcuk?

Ok I'm done.

nobody else saw this? really?

[qwertz]

nobody else saw this? really?

hmmm yes..if you read the replies

[lahnnabell]

For me this all comes from a selfish attitude, and I don't mean to be "emotionally abusive". Maybe it's because I was an only child, and I got everything I wanted without having to give back, or having to share. blah blah blah.. I dunno, I'm not a psychologist. I do know that once I recognized this behavior in myself, I've been able to stop it. So have you called your guy out on his double-standard BS? He may not be aware that he's doing it.

Much of the secrets about our behavior reside in how we were raised. You are not used to having to share anything with anyone, and this is something you can carry into your relationships, yes.

Awesome that you have been able to recognize this traits in yourself though! Most guys I know like this wouldn't see it if I repeatedly smacked them in the face with it.

[CocoChanel]

who is her legal guardian?

Legally she has always been my mother. When I was living with my mother... I took care of her 90% of the time anyway. When I moved out on my own... I pretty much begged my mother, let me take her with me. She said yes because since she was born and after her mother was buried I took full responsibility of raising her. My mom trusted me so she let me take her with me. I raised her as if she were my own. But I was too young when my best friend gave birth so... no I legally could not have not custody. It went to my mother. But as far as papers go... My mom is her legal guardian.