Convincing Her to Go Down

[girl68]

That's an interesting point to Giga! But that's a hell no for me.

Maybe I am a lame first time lay but I'm not all that comfortable even stroking a penis for the first few hookups.

It just takes me a little bit longer to find comfort with a new partner in bed! But once comfort is found I believe I'm well worth the wait.

To the OP there are some women who even after a certain comfrot level is found she may still not enjoy giving head.

[shheadz]

Maybe I am a lame first time lay but I'm not all that comfortable even stroking a penis for the first few hookups.

I'm not trying to sound dense, but it's just a penis. Besides being in his pants all day, it's probably less gross than having your tongue in the guy's mouth -- so long as he doesn't cum.

To the OP there are some women who even after a certain comfrot level is found she may still not enjoy giving head.

It's kind of a deal breaker for me. I know that makes me sound like a pig, but I'm just being honest.

[girl68]

I'm not trying to sound dense, but it's just a penis. Besides being in his pants all day, it's probably less gross than having your tongue in the guy's mouth -- so long as he doesn't cum.

It's kind of a deal breaker for me. I know that makes me sound like a pig, but I'm just being honest.

It's not that I think his penis is dirty. To me, playing with a penis either in my hand or my mouth is an intimate act on my part. For the most part intimate acts take a little time, those acts go hand in hand with feelings, not hormones. Hormones and sex go together but sucking dick takes a little longer.

That's fine you think it's a dealbreaker. A low dex drive for me is a dealbreaker.

Advice is to give it a week or so see if she's like myself and eventually comes around to love sucking your penis OR she just doesn't like the act itself. If in a week or 2 she still doesn't have a chat, and get the truth.

[shheadz]

Thanks for the advice 68.. I'll give her more time. It didn't know it was such an intimate thing for women. I figured it was actually less intimate than sex itself. Go figure.

[girl68]

^ LOL

You're a dude but... think pretty woman. She doesn't kiss on the lips, it's too intimate. She's a hooker so she's got to suck dick.

But yeah dick sucking is very enjoyable for me, but I'll sleep with a guy before I suck his dick, it's much more intimate. (IMO).

[shheadz]

I has to be some combination of trust + special gift. You trust him enough not to do something stupid (cum in your face), and you like him enough to give him that little special gift.

[Perryville]

Good point Gig. I do the same with pussy, I will want to look at it and smell it first, (Surreptitously, of course) or maybe finger her, and then smell my fingers, to get an idea if she is clean and healthy. Women , who use feminine spray or scented/flavored douches, I'm usually pretty suspicious of until after I get to know her a while.

[Perryville]

BTW, just remember not to try to shove it down her throat, or cut off the supply of oxygen to her brain, and you will be good to go.

[lahnnabell]

I agree with what a lot of the posters above said. BJs are far more intimate for me due to the amount of work involved in pleasing the guy and the performance of it. I'm all about the full show of it for my guy (looking him in the eye, teasing him for a long time beforehand). Random hookups and one night stands would never get that kind of treatment. In fact, I never expect an orgasm with a one night stand because I'm usually just looking to get fcuked. Real sexual chemistry takes time.

I am also more likely to acquiesce if the guy has gone down on me first (and gotten me off). I've met very few real p**** lovers and it helps to know if a guy is really into it, or just saying he is to get something out of it.

I'm still in the process of convincing my boyfriend how much I love doing down on him. He was utterly flabbergasted when I would just jump on him. He's growing quite used to it though

[Graham Berkeley]

One more reason to date within your own age range. It sure pays off for me. I would never trade my man in for a young'un- I'd have to train the puppy.

Yeah seriously it isnt sex at all to have to teach her how to do it... its like... I want a confident woman not an inexperienced, vulnerable, little girl...

[DoesntMatter]

Throw a handful of 100s at her

[eva1]

Ive been with my girlfriend 2 months and she hasnt gone down on me, she said she doesnt do that (dont know wether that means she doesnt like to) she said she would for my birthday tho so we will see. I said but you wont do it again after that and she said you never know! what goes on in girls minds i'll never know!

[lahnnabell]

Ive been with my girlfriend 2 months and she hasnt gone down on me, she said she doesnt do that (dont know wether that means she doesnt like to) she said she would for my birthday tho so we will see. I said but you wont do it again after that and she said you never know! what goes on in girls minds i'll never know!

It means what it means. If a girl says she doesn't do that, then she doesn't. Don't think that any amount of convincing or reasoning will help her change her mind. From what I understand, if a girl adamantly states "No, I don't give BJs", it usually stays that way.

I think it's unfair of her to tease you like that. It's not unreasonable to want a sexually compatible partner.

[Heratriumphant]

I'm with Giga on this one. I want to inspect the wares, plus it gives me ideas about what the guy is going to enjoy by how he responds to different technics, this making the whole experience better.

I really don't get the idea that oral is more intimate, or even more of a "performance." I give my all to all of it.

[Graham Berkeley]

It means what it means. If a girl says she doesn't do that, then she doesn't. Don't think that any amount of convincing or reasoning will help her change her mind. From what I understand, if a girl adamantly states "No, I don't give BJs", it usually stays that way.

I think it's unfair of her to tease you like that. It's not unreasonable to want a sexually compatible partner.

I could write a book on this topic... One of the many contributing factors that ended my last relationship was because of this. In my mind after a two year old relationship it isn't wrong for me to ask for this level of intimacy... Her stance is if I really loved her I wouldn't want it... Just not fair... Not fair for either of us...