Quote Originally Posted by IndiReloaded View Post
Jake, as an adult, is fully responsible for his own feelings. Its not for you to satisfy whatever issues he has. Try to remember this and stop bending over for this guy. You are who you are. Its up to him to figure out if you are what he wants, or not. There is something very unhealthy about this whole dynamic, its like you want to keep your claws in him, somehow, but give the appearance of being detached. Its as if you are trying to draw him in with subterfuge about how 'stable' you now are. I hope you can see how strange that is.

I stand by my original suggestion you take a hard look at those thoughts about this guy. The ones that pop up and you quickly sweep under the mental rug--they are there, its quite obvious to an outside 'observer'.

Good luck.

Thanks, good advice. Good points.