This is driving me nuts. Excuse me being so honest but I have to. I have been in a ten year relationship with my partner and we never have sex. I am 37 and he is 47. I love sex and I have gone outside looking for it. I am never happy with that as I prefer to be monogamous. My partner knows and one word to describe him would be aloof. I have stayed with him this long as he is extremely nice. So everything is good except the sex side. We have even bought a house together. I have now met this Indian guy who is incredible and now I am confused of whether to stay with my current partnet or go to be with him. I have told my partner that I am thinking of leaving and he said that I have to make up my mind and to let him know. Then he gets depressed and then I get depressed as I do not want to hurt him. Any ideas?