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[lavabit]

This is driving me nuts. Excuse me being so honest but I have to. I have been in a ten year relationship with my partner and we never have sex. I am 37 and he is 47. I love sex and I have gone outside looking for it. I am never happy with that as I prefer to be monogamous. My partner knows and one word to describe him would be aloof. I have stayed with him this long as he is extremely nice. So everything is good except the sex side. We have even bought a house together. I have now met this Indian guy who is incredible and now I am confused of whether to stay with my current partnet or go to be with him. I have told my partner that I am thinking of leaving and he said that I have to make up my mind and to let him know. Then he gets depressed and then I get depressed as I do not want to hurt him. Any ideas?

[*D*]

I feel it all comes down to Are you happy with your situation?
If you are then i think you should stick it out but if you are not then there are changes to be made.
Intimacy is obviously an important part of a relationship and it is something that is important to you.
is there a reeason for your partner not engaging in sex?

[lavabit]

He just says he has no libido. Strange for a guy.

[*D*]

hmm...i pesonally feel sexual drive ties in with an emotional energy from partner to partner.
Is there still an emotional connection between you two?
Maybe it is time to move on.

[Lipp]

Despite him saying that he has no libido, have you guys even attempted it? It's easy to feel lack of lust when there's no action.