I don't understand her.

[IAmAMoose]

Hi fellow forumers, this might be a long story so you have been warned.


CHAPTER 1.


It started when last summer break ended around August as I went to school I saw this new girl.
Immediatly I felt drawn to her, but I couldn't really get myself to talk to her.
I got an impression that she was shy, loyal, a very kind person who values her friends. (She hangs out with 2 other people at school only)

Eventually, I got enough courage to talk to her around the start of winter break. I added her on MSN, and we connected really great, we found out we had so much in common. We both draw, play the guitar, piano and sing. Conversation kept on great without any pauses, just constant chatting.

CHAPTER 2.


My intention was to atleast start a conversation with her 3 times during one week, and wait for HER to start one after that.
Now I can't remember if I started 2 or 3 but anyway.
One day, SHE started a conversation with me, and here I think "Hey, maybe she has some interest in me after all?"

Just as all the other conversation, this one went great and she told me she had a new phone and that she's gonna be away for a week. I took the opportunity to ask for her phone number, and I received it. Man was I happy.

I texted her twice that week she was away, she texted me the Sunday of that week when she got home, and as the conversations on MSN, the texting went really great, no pauses. She was a good texter, I was surprised.

CHAPTER 3.


This time when we met each other at school, we said hello and waved whenever we saw each other, no conversations yet.
We continued the texting and chatting, 90 % chatting, conversations started from both sides.
Til I had the courage to invite her over, and she said yes!
This is about one month and a week after we started having contact.
The original day she was supposed to come I got a text around 11 AM and it said: (Since we're swedish I'll literally translate)

"Hiii:-) hey, I can't come today:-( could only stay for like 30 mins but that wouldn't be fun so can't we take it some other time? =/ kiss<3"

I liked that last part since I never got it before, anyway. She started a convo with me on MSN the day after and asked me if I had any plans the upcoming weekend, we decided to hang out the upcoming Friday.

CHAPTER 4.

The big day, and I was so nervous. The night started with dinner, and she noticed how I devorated the room with lights and all, 5 stars to me for enthuisasm. Conversation went great, I can't understand it but all the nervousness completely dissapeared as we started talking.

Anyway, as we finished eating we went to the living room and watched a movie, "The Eye", wow is this movie supposed to be scary, as the horror film move technique failed we started to talk and all.

As I mentioned before, we had alot in common, especially music. We were playing some stuff together dual guitar, I introduced some work I've done and she did too, but she was very shy about it, so I didn't push her too much. The rest of the night was us holding a guitar, playing and talking constantly. So much laughter and smiles from both sides, and it seemed like we both had a great time.

Around 12.30 AM she got a 2nd phone call from her mom, probably a reminder that she was outside waiting for her.
She looked so surprised and said "im on my way" as if she forgot it.

I walked her to the door, and thanked her for the night and we hugged.

CHAPTER 5.

Sunday, two days after I got a text from her saying she forgot her bag at my place and she asked if it was okay to pick it up later. I said, no . (C'mon guys, I'm joking) I said yes, and she said she'd come around 7, cause she was gonna reherse with her band. They probably got carried away, since she arrived around 9 instead xD

Of course I walk her home, and Im still so surprised how easy it is to talk to this girl, our conversations are still full of life.
When we reached her place she approached for a hug and I answered with one.

Wow, guys you made it this far. Not much left xD

CHAPTER 6.

Monday, we got same class at the end of the day, Choir.
I just waved with a smile, since I arrived late <.<

I walked home with some friends when the class ended, after awhile I looked back and I saw her walk alone, my friends told me to go with her instead so I did, maybe I should've passed on that, we hung out the Friday before, nothing at all at Saturday, Sunday we walked together. Would it be too clingy? Despite that I went back to meet her, and still our conversation was full of life, laughter and all. Til the last minute short road before we reached her place, our 1st "awkward silence" . Good thing it wasn't so long since we were really close to her place now, and eventually we reached it and just said bye.

Tuesday, since she told me that I had to "bother" her and text her that morning cause of some boring class she hates.
That went on just like our other text msg convos were, and after not so long my phone died xD
I waited and restarted it, to let her know it did and it had just enough time to send the msg before it died again.

LAST CHAPTER:

I decide to give her space now, I usually go with a 3 day pause, and I do that every week so I know I haven't been clingy before. Just this girl would always msg me within those 3 days, but this week was different. I texted her the tuesday, remember? Time reached saturday and I texted her that evening. No reply.

VAlentine's day: Nothing from either me or her.

Monday: We saw each other at the cafeteria and she waved. That's all.

Tuesday: Texted her that morning, but her msgs were not the same. THey were short, and pale. pretty much dead, mayority didnt even contain a smiley.

Today: I'm really confused, and I'm just looking for your opinions around this.

Please ask questions around these chapters, I didn't include everything so possibility is I have missed stuff that you may find important.

As a side note, I am the first guy she ever had contact with, I dont think she had any past relationships at all. I'm 17, to be 18 this year. She is 16, to be 17.

Thanks for reading

[Rich]

ok, so, sorry if I'm being silly, but what are you actually asking?
If your worried about her texts being off on the tuesday, then I think you should stop reading too much into the texts, she could have been short on time, her phone could have been low on power there are loads of normal things that could affect texting habits

Also, I'd say wait for her to text you next if you just text randomly asking how she is ect.
If you do text her first then it should be to organise meeting up with her. It will give you a much better idea of how she is feeling if you see her face to face. It seems like you do alot of texting and alot of waving to her, maybe she just wants to see you in person more for an actual conversation?

Also, you might want to vary your whole '3 day-no-text' thing you've got going on, the chances are she will catch on and you will come accross as predictable/boring imo.

I hope I've helped a bit and I hope I've given good advice lol

What does everyone else here think?

[IAmAMoose]

I am worried about this sudden change of personality from her side after everything went so great, from lots of laughter and interest to her almost ignoring me.

Just as the title says, I don't understand her. What's going on around her head?

[Gigabitch]

Are you expecting a high school girl to reciprocate effort equally? Silly boy. She wants you to work harder.

[IAmAMoose]

I find that somewhat hard to believe, I thought coming off strong on this situation would make things worse. I still do, but doing nothing? Ugh..

[girl68]

The 3 day pause from you was taken as "he don't like me". You were doing great... until you decided something needed to change.

Lesson: DON'T FIX IT IF IT AIN'T BROKEN.

[IAmAMoose]

The 3 day pause from you was taken as "he don't like me". You were doing great... until you decided something needed to change.

Lesson: DON'T FIX IT IF IT AIN'T BROKEN.

Even if that is true, would such an assumption really cause her to ignoring me when I did contact her?

If it's someone who is thinking in this case "SHE doesn't like me" it's me.

The 1st poster is the only one who made a little sense around here. Maybe it's true, we've been chatting and texting so much maybe she grow tired of it, and wants me to talk to her inrl instead.

[girl68]

I think you blew it. So yes that assumption could do that.

[IAmAMoose]

Hahah, I think I overrestimated female point of view in this.

I may have caused an misunderstanding if youre gonna go with that pessimistic conclusion.

I will use that lesson of yours, but change it a little. Atm it's a little broken and needs to be fixed.

[girl68]

Well NOW it does... but earlier no.

[Gigabitch]

Hahah, I think I overrestimated female point of view in this.

It's a female you're dealing with, Moose. You clearly don't understand how they think.