Hi, so I am a female that is still a virgin, in college and dating her 2nd boyfriend. My bf and I have been dating for about 7 months, but have been hanging out/talking/fooling around for a year and a half. Recently, not having sex has become a problem in our relationship. My bf is getting frustrated and feels like I don't care about our relationship and that our relationship is not going to grow on an intimate level which will cause problems in the relationship because we are not having sex. A couple of weeks ago we had this disscusion about how I had been thinking about having sex with him, but wasn't ready yet and that I just wanted him to respect that and just let me tell him when I was ready. He told me that he cared about me and had feelings for me and that he respected my thoughts about the situation. After that conversation he didnt really bring up the topic of us having sex until the other day when we had our fight. He said that to him sex is important and that its just not about being physical to him and that when he has sex he puts emotions towards and it means something to him, etc. He said that he doesnt understand why girls dont want to have sex with him and that it makes him feel really insecure and that hes tired of hearing his guy friends make fun of him for not having sex in college and makes him think about how i feel about him and if i even want to have sex with him, etc.
I dont really know what to do, because the only reason I am waiting is because I want to make sure that there is enough data for me to know if we are in a commited relationship or not, before we have sex.
Does not having sex for a guy really **** with their head?
Do guys really need to have sex with their partner to feel a emotional connection? I feel like half of what guys say to their girlfriends about having sex, is complete bullshit. I'm not one of those girls that can be easily manipulated...trust me...
what are your thoughts?