What do I do if my brother forbids me to talk to a guy?

[the_robot]

Thanks for the advice, but even though I'm young and unexperienced I"m very cold when it comes to feelings or so my family tells me. It's because I'm young that I always remind myself never to fall for a guy too much that I would have my heart broken but I think it would be my fault if I ever broke up with someone because sometimes I'm very coldhearted and don't like to express my feelings. So in that part you don't have to worry about my heart being broken.

I was like a robot not 5 years ago, no feelings basically because I blocked them away. Until someone came along and broke me... Believe me, it will hurt when it happens if something goes wrong.

At first it was like that but just because I'm easily flattered doesn't mean I'm easy to get with. A overweight fat person could tell me that he likes me and I would be flattered but I wouldn' actually be his girlfriend.

You'll probably find one day that being fat is not important, a good amount of sweet guys are fat (ironic, isn't it) and are probably better than what most girls are used to. Besides, fat is really easy to loose.

[Mish]

I'm not saying I MUST talk to him. We just had a casual talk and it was about how tall we were And no that's not the reason why I want to talk to him plus I don't need to talk to him so badly I'm just mad that he won't even let me talk to him. Is it so bad to be at least friends with the guy like the others I've had in the past.

I know I'm too young but I've never had a boyfriend and I'm in high school. I'm very independent and known to be smart, serious, quiet and pretty. Recently there's this guy in my p.e. class that's one year older than I am and is my brother's friend. I didn't really notice him until my brother told me that he wanted to know if I was single. Of course he didn't tell my brother to tell me that. My brother told me that he's good as a friend but looks bad as a boyfriend. I really like him but I'm probably the only person he doesn't talk to in p.e. class and I want to know why that is. I know I shouldn't be asking this at my age, but it's my first boyfriend and I want to know if I'm stupid for even considering such a guy.

It's funny how DIFFERENT the same issue in two of your threads reads

[vashti]

Is this the guy who cuts himself?

Ugh. no. Don't do it.

[Tuffytuff]

I never said I don't want him to be mad at me because right now I'm pissed off at him. Plus my brother has this power over my parents so no matter what I do I'll just get pushed down. I'm younger and weaker physically so I can't even over power him. Mentally I'm stronger than him but he only knows how to deal with situations using his body. If I don't always listen to what he says he'll force me one way or another. Of course I try to stand up to him and I don't listen to him anyways cause I hate how he uses his influence over my parents and his strength to force me. But there is only so much I can do and seeing on how my parents have given up on disciplining him and how he no longer has any respect towards them especially me, there's nothing I can do. I just learn to deal with it. If he's mad at me he'll do anything to get at me. He would tell my mom ridiculous lies and she'll believe him or he will sabotage me by messing up on something important I'm working on which makes me so fustrated I want to punch him. If I stand up for myself my brother would retaliate which would make my mom more stressed as it is and I don't like seeing her fustrated since she already has enough problems. Since my brother won't be old enough to do this I end up doing it.

[Tuffytuff]

O my god. I'm saying that this is only one of the issues and I'm not saying this is the main thing. I don't feel like I need to prove any point since I know this already. I'm not that kind of rebelious person yet.

[Petit Papillon]

Tuffy, I suggest you start to use quotings, because everytime you write a post out of the blue, without any particular addressee, it looks like you talk to yourself or an imaginary person. Use the quotes, please

[VincenzoG91]

Her brother is just one year older, so I don't think that makes him any great moral authority or source of wisdom. So Tuffy shouldn't be particularly concerned with his advice.

However, she shouldn't do the opposite just to spite her brother either, because that would be childish.

Tuffy, don't get involved with a guy just because. Take a hard look at who he is and what he does, and if he has serious issues, avoid him.

[the_robot]

I never said I don't want him to be mad at me because right now I'm pissed off at him. Plus my brother has this power over my parents so no matter what I do I'll just get pushed down. I'm younger and weaker physically so I can't even over power him. Mentally I'm stronger than him but he only knows how to deal with situations using his body. If I don't always listen to what he says he'll force me one way or another. Of course I try to stand up to him and I don't listen to him anyways cause I hate how he uses his influence over my parents and his strength to force me. But there is only so much I can do and seeing on how my parents have given up on disciplining him and how he no longer has any respect towards them especially me, there's nothing I can do. I just learn to deal with it. If he's mad at me he'll do anything to get at me. He would tell my mom ridiculous lies and she'll believe him or he will sabotage me by messing up on something important I'm working on which makes me so fustrated I want to punch him. If I stand up for myself my brother would retaliate which would make my mom more stressed as it is and I don't like seeing her fustrated since she already has enough problems. Since my brother won't be old enough to do this I end up doing it.

Not meaning to offend, but if you really where mentally stronger, he'd not get over you with anything, I'm the younger of 3, and I've been playing my parents since I was a kid... my sisters don't stand a chance against me even if they wanted to be mean to me, I know their weaknesses and how to play my parents.

Also, I think you are just being rebelious.. can't tell for sure, but it seems so.

btw, if you used line breaks and quotes, it would be easier to follow up.