Originally Posted by
LTsK8eR2gO
okay well here's my question:
i know that at the beginning, like, when you first see a girl you want to attract, you have to give off the attitude "i don't care what you think of me" and you basically act like a jerk.
anybody disagree? look at reality:
ladies, notice how there are times when DOZENS of guys are dying to go out with you, except for that ONE guy who doesn't want you and he treats you like shit?
*cough* enough said.
now, this attitude makes the girl want you badly!
what's the attitude i have to show in a long-term relationship to make the girl want me badly too? (long-term as in 8-10 month)
LTsK8eR2gO,
Why are you asking this in the first place? Does it seem like your girlfriend does not want you badly?
I bet she does anyway. There really is little point in trying to impress someone you've been dating for 8-10 months. In a relationship, two people are supposed to be opening up to each other in hopes of forming a lasting bond of understanding, appreciation and unconditional love.
The more you act up, the more you'll distance yourself away from her and even if the whole bad boy act makes her want you, in the long run she'll be yearning for someone she can have mutual understanding with.
Basically, here's how the whole "bad boy" thing works on girls: she sees this badass guy and instantaneously wants to have his favor/liking, since he's so badass that'll make her feel more confident about herself. She's infatuated with the bad boy attitude but at the same time she's wondering whether there's a completely different side to him. The anticipation of "breaking through" and getting to know the real HIM keeps her excited posing a challenge. Psychologically, she wants to know you inside out because she feels that she can aquire power over him that way. But in the process of getting to know the real him she finds herself in love, therefore the quest for power is gradually transformed into a quest for a close bond with the person she loves. Given that, all else loses its importance and other, more mature, less shallow desires take place.
Given that you've been dating for 8-10 months I suspect that she knows the real you already, so matter how much you control the disclosure process. It would be silly to act the way you acted in the beginning (unless you're trying to revive certain memories.)
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