Isn't this just more proof that some things just can't be put behind you, even if you say it has been? I know it's been four years, but if it was an important and serious relationship to you it has put a permanent mark on you. And I think it's safe to assume that this has been. I don't mean to dumpster dive, but what happened four years ago and what did you do that made things so horrible? I can't help but feel like he played a part as well. Are you trying to do this to give yourself redemption for what you did to him before?
You say that you guys both want to work towards this but do you both really want to? It doesn't sound like he is fully committed to this. I know that you are taking things slow and I think that's what you should do. If he wants to explore his options though, what are you proving by taking down your own dating profile?
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