Hi anyone,
To spare you a very long and detailed story, I'll just start my predicament with a question...How is it wrong to be "seeing" someone you love and who loves you while they are in a relationship. This isn't a rhetorical question, I really want to know..
Basically me and "girl" fell in love after she broke up with her boyfriend awhile back. We never officially dated, but did everything else that it means. Eventually she got torn between her new love, me, and her old comfort of a stable boyfriend. Everybody and their moms knew those two as a couple, and I wanted her to get over him. Stupidly, I let her be with him to sort things out. They are now dating. We still talk daily, say good morning, goodnight, I love you, always know what eachother are doing, etc. But they continue to be dating.
We have totally different relationships; my relationship with her is very sexual and we're attracted everytime we see eachother, while the relationship with her and him...she admits there is little attraction. I don't know the guy, but I'm sure he's very nice. She has said she doesn't see a future with either of us, though I have been firm to tell her that I do and that I want a relationship with her. Both of us guys care for her, and I want her to be happy, but she never seems happier than when shes with me.
So the summer is here, we're college students so we fairly far apart...and she moves across the country for the rest of the summer in a month. Neither of us guys are going with though. What I'm asking is your perspective on what I should do, but also if you think it's bad to still be in the middle of a relationship? What if, if anything, justifies that?
Thanks,
Exploderman09