Hello,
I'm somewhat new here. Anyways I've been with my guy (committed) for 3 yrs in July, known him for almost 6 yrs. When we first met we were just friends or **** buddies. I ended up getting pregnant and he moved away for school and I never saw him until our daughter was 4 months old. We started sleeping together 8 months after that and then started dating exculsively after about 2 months. I'll admit it our relationship right from the begining was was based on just sex. He only asked me out because I told him one of my old internet bf's had managed to find out my phone number at my new appartment and wanted to know if I was still single blah blah blah. Once I told him that he asked me out right away. Our relationship seemed to be going pretty well. We're now engaged and marrying in a year.
Febraury of 2009 I found out I have Endometriosys at 20 yrs old. I'm now 21 almost 22 yrs old. It has affected my sex drive alot as I would be tired alot and when we did have sex it caused me severe pain. So to avoid putting myself threw the pain I used the excuse "I'm tired" and eventually our sex life went from 5-7 times a week to (lately) 1-2 times a month if we're lucky. Now i DO enjoy .. or I DID i should say, enjoy sex. But the pain just turned me off and made it very hard for me to enjoy it. He keeps telling me he wants ME to go back to the way I was BEFORE I found out about my medical thing and have sex with him the 5-7 times a week it was.
As sex decreased, for my medical/health reasons, he got whiney, needy, obsessive and down right nasty when it came to wanting it. Sometimes to the point where he didn't care if I said no and took it or attempted to take what he wanted without even processing that I said no, or that I'm in pain.He would and still does get very immature about me saying no. He'll throw tantrums in bed, pout, scream and yell, stomp around and leaves the bedroom and calls me selfish.
I finally realized my birth control pills were one of the reason why sex hurt me ... I went off them for weight loss purposes and soon realized sex no longer hurts ... and now I'm more interested in sex and feel more sexual then I have been in a year. In the last year and a bit, I relationship has almost come to an end too many times to count, due to arguements over sex(among other things). And alot of it seems to be because he's to impatient to wait one night or whatever. He thinks and has said many times in arguements that he feels more "loved" when we have sex on a regular basis. When we do have sex, he gets very weird and says things like "See told you it was a good idea" .... and is all about him.
Why doesn't he understand that I have a medical condition that effects my sex drive and performance?
Why is he only happy when we've had sex?