Hi guys...I've been seeing a guy for a few years now. He was dating someone the first 4 years I knew him, but there was still an attraction between us. We became really close friends. They broke up a year and a half ago. We didn't pursue our own relationship until a year after they broke up. He took me on a business trip with him. He took me to his sister's wedding. He began introducing me to his close friends and family, but we still weren't 'official.' So a couple of weeks ago, I found an IM convo between him and an ex (not the most recent one). It was sexual in nature and I believe she came down to his house that night. I confronted him about it, and he denied she ever came down, but not having the conversation. I asked him what it was about and he couldn't explain. Even though we weren't official, he called me all the time throughout the day, we regularly saw each other, we were sleeping together, he got mad if he thought I was hanging with another guy...so I thought we had just started dating without really saying it. I was pissed and didn't talk to him for a week. After a week, he showed up at my door with an engagement ring. But then he didn't know what to say. I asked him what he was asking me and he couldn't really give me a clear answer. Four days later, I asked him if I was allowed to show off the ring. He said he wanted to talk first about whether we wanted to date. What?! Why would he show up with a ring at my door, and now we're still not official? I am very confused. Please help!