Am I ready for this relationship?
I know this question can't really be answered for me, but I would like some opinions:
Background story:
First I gotta say, what a relief that i'm finally able to post here outside of the "broken hearts forum." I can say I feel really good again and ready to go out and date. So thanks to all those who helped me through that. But anyways, what happened is that there's this old friend I had from when I first started college (I just graduated in May). When I was a freshman (and age 17) she was a senior (age 21).. So our friendship was completely platonic. Not that I didn't find her attractive or anything but I kind of saw her like an older sister in a way, we never had that vibe. So fast forward to now. She had a child who is 4 years old right now.
So anyways as I had just finished school, I was basically taking a vacation and travelling around to various places. One place happened to be 30 mins away from her so I called her up and asked if she would be able to meet up sometime. When I saw her she was kind of like wow look at you all grown up! Your looking really good right now. So I just took that as a compliment from a friend and didn't think a whole lot about it.
The next day she said she wanted to come see me. Of course having a child she also had obligations so her daughter, and her family were there along with her. She introduced me to her fam as her "best friend" which I also thought was a little strange. We were friends of course but we weren't THAT close. So that was another sign. Then she said if I wanted she could drop her daughter and her mom at home and come back and we could go out.. Her along with her sisters because they all wanted to go out and they only have 2 cars. So I said ok that's fine. And I assumed the fact that her sisters were coming meant it was nothing like a date.
But then, she was acting different towards me, flirty even. And one side of me wanted to flirt back and another side insisted that i was misreading things and that we have always just been friends so she wouldn't really be looking at me that way.
Anyways long story short when I got back home she admitted she has feelings for me and didn't know how to tell me. And I told her I have feelings too and that they scare me.
So as far as i'm considered, the age difference (i'm 22 and she's 26) I can get past, it's not that huge of a deal. My biggest problem is the child. I don't want to sound selfish but i'm just out of college, I have no job, I don't yet live on my own, I just don't see myself mentally or even financially being able to date someone with a child. And especially at her age and her current situation, I feel as though whatever guy she dates next she would want as potential husband material. She told me she hasn't had a boyfriend since her child was born 4 years ago. I don't know if I can be that guy. I mean the way the situation is, if she didn't have the child i'd be all systems go, but it really just scares me big time. Should I go for it or should I let it go?
Be careful with your heart, because when someone seems too good to be true, they usually are.