The monster that I am

[girl68]

If you look different in the pic... we want to see the REAL you... take a picture yourself of what you normally look like. Judging a bad pic won't be of much use.

[Regnent]

As I spent alot of time in a self loathing phase, I can only suggest that you focus on you.
Figure out what it is exactly that is important to you, and in what order.
Then persue them in that order.

If finding someone is at the top of the list, seriously consider moving it down the list for the simple sake of 'It's not entirely in your hands'. Love will come, you need to be together enough to recognize it, and confident enough to act on it.

I found the more I focused on it, the harder it made it.