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    Frequent shorter sex vs. Infrequent longer sex

    My GF and I only see each other on the weekends because we have to take care of our kids during the week. We are both very sexual people previously trapped in long unhappy (sex-less) marriages, so needless to say, we are happy to have each other now. We have been together for almost 9 months, and are considering marriage in the near future. We are going to have our kids play together later this month to see how a possible family setting would play out.

    Because we see each other so infrequently, we have sex almost every time we see each other. Typically, on a weekend, we would meet at my place around 4pm on Saturday to begin our weekend. We have sex for 2 hours, then go out (dinner, movie, date, etc). We would be back before midnight, and have sex again for 2 -3 hours. We go to bed, wake up at 9am, and have sex for 2 hours on sunday morning. Then we go out and do stuff.... come back around 9pm, and have sex for 2 -3 hours. Sometimes, it lasts 4 hours. On monday morning, she wakes up the proper way.... either by riding me, or putting me in her mouth until I finish. We begin our week, and don't see each other for the next 5 days.

    I am super happy that I get to have sex so often on weekends. She is so happy that she sends me flowers during the week. Sometimes I feel like I'm in heaven. But here's the thing: I am wondering if all this sex is draining my health. I feel exhausted during the week. I feel fatigue in my groin area, and back soreness. She told me she feels sore down there, but she wants more. I want more too. I'm not complaining. I'm just wondering if people can actually hurt their body with weekend sex-binges. Would it be better for the body to have sex more frequently, and in moderation? Like eating?

    Does anyone have any insight on the matter?

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    I have sex pretty regularly, but it doesn't last three hours. That's too long, in my opinion. I can see how you guys must be exhausted. I think you're having what I would call "courting sex". You're trying to impress each other and you're both greedy for it because you were deprived for so long. It's like you were on a diet for 12 years and now, every weekend, you get to eat as much as you want. I did this with my husband too, because we were long distance for the first eight months, so every couple of weeks was like a porn convention for us.

    Maybe when you're living together in the future you reach a more sustainable pace.
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    Frequent, shorter sexy time for me but a few times a day is my preference. The marathon sex doesn't do it for me. If it lasts longer than 30 mins I start to get ADHD.
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    short sex for me please. excluding 1 minute men.

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    lol Kalus you have pretty much described my relationship!!!! I notice fatigue on Monday& Tuesday, but tend to get over it later in then week. Then the cycle starts all over again... I dunno, shorter sex sessions seem impossible with me& my bf (been together 10mths or so), but I'm just enjoying it while it lasts!

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    I'd probably fall asleep after 20 minutes.

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    I get terribly dry, sore and the feeling of "raw" and that is soooo not a good feeling.

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    Just some food for thought:

    Wouldn't infrequent sex = shorter sex? Seems like the longer time between getting laid would mean the guy is more sensitive, thus becoming a 1 minute man
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaius View Post
    Typically, on a weekend, we would meet at my place around 4pm on Saturday to begin our weekend. We have sex for 2 hours, then go out (dinner, movie, date, etc). We would be back before midnight, and have sex again for 2 -3 hours. We go to bed, wake up at 9am, and have sex for 2 hours on sunday morning. Then we go out and do stuff.... come back around 9pm, and have sex for 2 -3 hours. Sometimes, it lasts 4 hours.
    It sounds good to me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by l337acc View Post
    Just some food for thought:

    Wouldn't infrequent sex = shorter sex? Seems like the longer time between getting laid would mean the guy is more sensitive, thus becoming a 1 minute man
    I never had the problem with a 'one minute' man and despite sex being infrequent and short.

    The only 'one minute' man I ever knew, was the first time with a guy. In fact it wasn't even one minute....more like ten seconds. I don't even think he'd got it in. How f**king disappointed was I? Reckoned he'd give me the time of my life too - well he managed to do that alright...NOT, lols.

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    We can't really marathon that frequently (longer than 2 hours).

    She'll begin to get dry and it becomes really uncomfortable after too long.

    We also rarely have sex more than once a day, I just lose interest after I bust a nut, but I'm usually game the next day.

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    Okay, so intercourse for around 15 minutes, but what about oral and foreplay?

    When I have sex it usually lasts a couple hours if you include all the above. Usually we engage in a little kissing and touching, I go down on her for a bit, I bang her a little, then we take a break, kiss and touch again, maybe jump back to oral and repeat the process. Maybe move into the shower for a little fun. I like to stretch it out as long as possible. I don't orgasm until I decide to, so it doesn't end naturally with me suddenly losing my load, and I typically don't get bored if we keep changing things up. Never had any complaints from the ladies, either. Course you women are evil and would rather complain behind a man's back than actually work with him to have awesome sex, so... who knows.
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