Men are hard to understand

[Raze]

lonely or horny?

Both. Ugh.

[xxazurexx]

The general rule of thumb is for the guy to call two days later. If a guy calls the very next day, that may be seen as a little too desperate, though it's acceptable if there was some great chemistry. If a guy calls three days later, that's a little negligent, but still within the boundaries of normal behavior. Later than that sends the message that he's not that into you.

If he's following these rules, then he's a dumb twat who is best worth forgetting about.

[xxazurexx]

Both. Ugh.

Have you got a job or interests?

[Raze]

Have you got a job or interests?

Yep! I have a job and I have me video games and cartoons. xD I'm a total nerd.

[xxazurexx]

Yep! I have a job and I have me video games and cartoons. xD I'm a total nerd.

....take no notice of me, I was just trying to wind you up....and failed lols

[VincenzoG91]

If he's following these rules, then he's a dumb twat who is best worth forgetting about.

Not everybody has the confidence to operate on pure instinct like you do. Like it or not, there are standard gender roles that include certain standard behaviors, with cultural variations. Guys are expected to ask for the number, and are expected to make the first call. Women are expected to wait passively for that call. There are general expectations about how soon that call should occur, despite what you may personally believe.

[Raze]

....take no notice of me, I was just trying to wind you up....and failed lols

Hey azure! What's a good lookin girl doing in a place like this? lol Do you come here often?

[girl68]

Not everybody has the confidence to operate on pure instinct like you do. Like it or not, there are standard gender roles that include certain standard behaviors, with cultural variations. Guys are expected to ask for the number, and are expected to make the first call. Women are expected to wait passively for that call. There are general expectations about how soon that call should occur, despite what you may personally believe.

I think what she's trying to say is a boy who waits to call is a boy not interested ENOUGH in her. And I agree with that notion, if he likes me enough he'll call right away... and I wouldn't think he's too eager or desperate because I'm just as "desperate and eager" waiting for the call.

[xxazurexx]

Vincenzo.....Not everybody has the confidence to operate on pure instinct like you do.

No need to get snotty and snidey.

I think what she's trying to say is a boy who waits to call is a boy not interested ENOUGH in her. And I agree with that notion, if he likes me enough he'll call right away... and I wouldn't think he's too eager or desperate because I'm just as "desperate and eager" waiting for the call.

DITTO........

[girl68]

No need to get snotty and snidey.

DITTO........

I explained it though you just spewed it as your way or the highway. Realize that you're the minoirty with this school of thought, I have. I'm well aware that "general rules" say wait a day or 2.

[ecojeanne]

jesus, relax. you obviously are desperate. have a real think about how you're thinking here. He's still on vacation, he's busy. if he calls then he calls, if he doesn;t then he doesn't. NEXT! you need to change your attitude. the more relaxed you are, the more they flock and the more fun you tend to have because you have no expectations. stop expecting and just get on with things, sometimes they call and sometimes they don't. that's it.

[IndiReloaded]

He'll call if he feels like it. Otherwise he's not into you. You must know this. Relax.

On a side note, that EliteMeeting ad is freaking me out. The guy in the pic looks identical to a guy I dated years ago, the one who became a lawyer. Yikes.

[xxazurexx]

I explained it though you just spewed it as your way or the highway. Realize that you're the minoirty with this school of thought, I have. I'm well aware that "general rules" say wait a day or 2.

I wasn't commenting on 'general' rules - I was commenting on those stupid dumb dating books that advise wait 3 days 34 minutes and 6 seconds and before you call.

And people who would normally show an interest immediatley are actually following this ditzy shit in the belief it will rouse a womans/mans interest further....LOL

I'd thought Vincenzo was referring to the dating books, when he mentioned dating rules.

[xxazurexx]

He'll call if he feels like it. Otherwise he's not into you. You must know this. Relax.

Exactly. Why do so many women have trouble figuring out, why a man doesn't call?

S-H-E-E-S-H....

[SapphireBerry]

Someone's already getting obsessive