Originally Posted by
JYH
A little bit about me: i'm 18, male, just started college, love music, guitar, and video games. I've never really had a girlfriend before and I would really like to improve myself to help me in that area. I just dont know how to go about doing that, so any advice would be helpful.
- I have close to no self-confidence and self-esteem.
- I am extremely pessimistic and I over-think every single thing way way too much. - this makes me a horrible decision maker as well.
- im pretty positive i have some sort of social anxiety disorder - im normal with my friends but im really terrible at and hate meeting new people, icebreaker-type things, etc. and its really really hard to make new friends and "put myself out there."
- I keep stressing about trying to impress girls and whatnot. I've never had a girlfriend and I have a mindset that my life is just empty without one.
- Being addicted to video games is also a really big thing for me. For the past 8 years, I was/am an addictive gamer and its pretty much ruined my life. I'd play 5-10 hours a day minimum, and im guessing thats where my problems of social anxiety disorder, and having no self-confidence/esteem started up because I never did anything all throughout middle and high school except sit at home and play games all day which probably affected how I am today.
What can I do to change these things? I think the majority of all my problems is about my mind and my way of thinking, but I don't know what to do for that type of thing...maybe therapy?