Confused! Don't know what to do! Help!

[dinah]

Hi,

I've just ended a three year relationship with a really nice (but needy) guy. The relationship ended partly because he gave me everything I ever wanted but didn't allow me to make him happy too... but also because I had a crush on Mark. Basically the whole time I was in this relationship, Mark was there being kind, funny, friendly and just the best guy ever. I could talk to him about anything - even stuff I couldn't tell my boyfriend - and I wanted him so bad that I had to check myself in his company.

When I realised what was happening I ended it with my boyfriend. It just wasn't fair. Of course, I ran straight to Mark and poured my heart out to him. He started off being helpful and sweet but soon he initiated a kiss which led to sex. I'd been broken up for 18 hours!! I wanted him so much but it didn't feel right. Everything's too raw. I told him to back off until I'd healed a little more.

Now I'm wondering, is Mark going to be my "rebound guy" instead of the potential amazing partner that I saw before? Is it possible for this to turn into something? Should I even be thinking about him as possible boyfriend material or should I focus on myself more? Should I keep it as casual sex and let him help me get over the ex? Our chemistry is off the charts and I don't trust myself alone with him. Should I give in to it or take some time out?

[Mish]

I think it all depends entirely on what you are trying to achieve. If you want this to be as casual sex only to help you get over the ex then don't hesitate. If you are interested in a serious long term relationship with this guy, then you should probably wait and develop the relationship using traditional methods (going out on dates etc.)