Ok so I was with this girl for like.. almost 2 months (not long I know..) and we recently broke up.
She is the love of my life. We met over the internet, and we had been talking since 1st Jan 2010, we talked almost everyday so we know eachother quite well. We fell inlove. 1st time we met up it was amazing, wasn't awkward or anything and by the end of the day, we found eachother wrestling on the grass and throwing bits at eachother. She gave me a quick peck on the lips and then we hugged.
(Just to fill you guys in)
She broke up with me (her emotions took over) because I had been getting abit upset. About a week before we broke up, I had noticed she was talking different and wasn't as excited about me. I asked her if she felt the same and she said no, and thats why I had been getting worried and sad.
We live an hour and 15 minutes away from eachother, and we would catch the train and meet up halfway (at a popular outdoors place). But since we couldn't see eachother every weekend because we both don't drive yet, she was abit busy on Saturday's for awhile so we hadn't seen eachother for 4 weeks (5 weeks today). She works on Sundays.
She used to think the world of me. She would say how perfect I was to her and how I did things without her having to hint them. She really was inlove with me, as I am with her. Although we are still very young, we would talk about our future, and how we want to spend the rest of our lives with eachother. She even got to naming our babies.
That night I was upset, she had explained in one paragraph why she wanted to breakup. She told me that things are getting too much for her a the moment, and that I get jealous of her guy friends. She said for now she just wants to be alone and single, but will always love me (I'm assuming friendship wise), and that I make her feel trapped because I always want to see her and that I'd get upset otherwise. She also told me that she doesn't think she's ready for this, that I'm so perfect to her but she can't take the distance (the 4 weeks stuffed us up). She also mentioned that when we 1st started talking I was funny etc and I was always there for her, but now all I remind(ed) her of is how much I love(d) her and how I would want to spend my life with her, and that she wants a break, that she's over realtionships and love. - She doesn't want to talk about it again untill she's ready.
(- I reckon if we saw eachother instead of letting that 4 weeks creep up, we would still be madly inlove with eachother, and she wouldn't of lost feelings for me)
I need help on how to get her back. We talked more after what she needed to say, and she had her mind made up. (she was upset aswell. I spose it was the emotions talking). She wants to be on a break, and needs space. And she will come back to me when she is better and have a better think about what she wants to do.
Right now, I want to know what I should do, to make her want to get back with me again.
I sent her a letter about all the issues she brang up in her paragraph thing, just explaining why I was like that, and that I will always be here for her, and that I still love her and all (not getting too lovey dovey). Basicly just being understanding of why she wants a break, that I'm not trying to persuade her on her decision, but to just consider everything. (I would like to show it to help with my advice, but I don't know how open I can be with this). She told me she smiled at it and saved it.
I need her to miss me, but I don't know how. Since we both talk to eachother on msn alot (or we did), I think I shouldn't be on much so she cant talk me, and gives her time to miss me.
I definatly need to give her her space, but I'm not sure how much I should talk to her when I am on. And if I should start talking to her 1st, and how often. Like say if I'm on for 30 minutes or so, talk to her that whole time then get off. Or if I should talk to her for like 10 minutes of that, and then say goodbye when I get off, but I dont want her to get over me. And I also don't know how happy I should act, because again, I don't want her to think we are better off as friends or anything. I dont know what's best to make her miss me and want me back.
I have thought about all the effort I'm going through to get her back, and honestly, if I get her back, it would of all been worth it. We were inlove, and I know I can make her happy again if we get back together. I'm going crazy. She would text me and ask why I wasn't online when we were still together, or where I was. It's so hard to not tell her I'm madly inlove with her and text her all the time. She is the only one I have ever truly been inlove with. My life has changed so much right now.. all I want is her. I know we are so young, I'm never going to give up on this girl. And I'm going to do everything I can to never push her away. I just need awesome advice ):
So I ask you guys for advice, and I'm sorry I wrote so much, I want you guys to get a good idea of how she is so I can make the right moves.
P.S, the day after we broke up, she said she thinks she misses me.