I'm feeling quite confused right now. Thought I would post here and see what the general consensus on my situation is…
Last may I met a young lady on a dating website. We went out once and hit it off pretty well. She's very spunky and full of personality. Shortly there after I learned she was only 20 years old (I'm 27 going on 28) and in the process of moving to my City from L.A.
She went back down to L.A. for a couple months and we would occasionally talk online. Eventually she moved up here and played real coy and at one point totally dropped off the radar. No biggie.
About a month went by and I invited her out to a beach party I was having. She came and after the party it was just me and her.
Shortly there after we began dating. Our work/school schedules only gave us one maybe two nights a week to actually go out. Things moved REALLY fast and after a couple of dates we ended up in bed. She cried after saying it was the best she had ever had but how she feels trashy because she's been with more guys at 20 then I have women at 27.
The following evening when I took her home she asked me if we were just friends with benefits or if this was moving toward a relationship. I told her this was all happening so fast that its confusing. That I needed more time to really call her my girlfriend. She said lets knock off the physical till we know where we are at. I agreed. Very adult decision as I don't want to loose her because we moved to fast.
A week or two went by of meeting up once a week both times I went with honorable, platonic, intentions but we always would end up in a park or movie theatre making out.
One night the "teasing" got a little to much for me and I flat out told her I thought we were going to limit our physicalness till we knew what we wanted. Flat out asked her what she wanted. She said we needed to work on our friendship more. I told her I didn't understand what that meant. Her roommate came home so I left. She was quite angry at me but wrote me this long email the following morning how she didn't want to loose me that she respected me and felt such a connection with me but didn't want a relationship and even went so far as to say she wanted a non-sexual relationship with me. Basically she wanted to cage me up on the friend shelf for a rainy day. This angered me as if all she really wanted was me to be her emotional tampon and this is how she "catches" guys. I was short and a bit mean to her over the phone. the following day I apologized for my tone and the words I used. It was quite immature of me. Things seemed patched up but she said "well I like you a little bit but people come and go out of each others lives all the time. I can't love you." the last line threw me off and made it quite clear in my mind she was reliving an argument with an Ex or something. She did have a particularly needy ex in high school and seems to have boiled down guys into two categories, the ones she'll get physical with that treat her like crap and the ones that treat her good so they have to be in the friend zone because they get needy. I told her I needed sometime to get over her that I really hadn't intended on being just friends...
Haven't talked to her in a week as I needed time to digest everything. She sent me a text the other night at 2am at random saying "I think you are my guardian angel." I don't even know how to take that…
Honestly I do like her. But I'm not going to get into a situation where I am chasing anyone. I've done that many times in my life and it never ends up good for the chaser.
What do I do at this point? Am I just being used and toyed with for attention or is she just looking for some sort of proof from me I'm not a jackass like other guys she's dated?