My Boyfriend CUT UP my Thighs...(long)

[Spoonandfork]

^That is exactly what I said in my original post, and what I said to you. High up on the inside of the thigh is close to my vagina. Quit lying on me - I didn't say it occured in my private area. THIS is what I said in my reply to you:

In both statements, I emphasized that he stuck me HIGH UP ON THE INSIDE OF MY THIGH. If you've ever seen a vagina before, you would know that the areas are pretty close

the area you are talking about is small, which contradicts your story about him sticking you with multiple tacks and making long cuts. How is it that a thong covers up a girl's private parts yet it would be considered "porn" if you took a picture of your thigh? I highly doubt all the puncture marks and long gashes can be covered up by a thong. Also, you can put a towel over your vulva or take a pic of the lower half of your injuries to preserve modesty

[Sonrisa]

Well, you may giggle, but I've seen young girls on Steve Wilkos going through the same exact physical/sexual abuse situation that you're in, so the joke is really on you.

Don't get too enthusiastic about getting the cops involved - this is something you should have done immediately, and I think now it will be harder to prove he did it and trying to get him in a legal bind could just be a waste of your time. You really need to tell your parents, though. Don't force us to have your Internet provider contact your parents about your post! We can't have minors coming on here posting stories like this and not have any obligation to do something about it.

And you will have to cut him off completely and immediately, for your own good. Furthermore, forgiving someone means you understand their intentions, which you don't. You can't change him, either, honey. Look on the bright side, though, there are plenty of fish in the sea, and most of them sure as hell would treat you better than this guy.

it would never be hard to prove, she won't have to prove anything. basically she makes an innocent face goes down to the police station and blames her love and deep feelings for him for taking this long to file a restraining order or press charges.

BUT...if this story is actually true....then it seems to me that she actually didn't mind it that much. cuz if that was me, there would be screaming and yelling and probably gun shots fired right on the spot.

[IncognitoSir]

@ IncognitoSir:

I'm not going through any serious issues with him, just "family problems" I guess I'd call it. For example, before the incident with my BF, we'd had a nit-picky argument at home over who had broken the computer monitor (which was NOT me). It's small, but things like that happening 5-10 times per day make for pretty frustrating build-up. He's always accusing me of things. Stupid things.

Anyway, that really isn't a big deal.

Well I have to question your judgement about what's serious and what isn't.....given your current situation. What I cant understand is what has happened to you that is allowing you to look at this situation in such a optimistic light. I remember my ex gf telling me about the effects of trauma after such an ordeal. You really shouldn't be so calm and understanding of your boyfriends actions. I don't think anyone here can actually help you though, and I still can't understand what advice you hoped to receive from an online loveforum. You need to understand that this is a collection of people who look at the situation from an realistic and unbiased (usually) point of view. I'm sure you see this as several shades of grey, red, green but for the most part these things are very "black and white". Meaning easily solved. It's not as complicated as you'd like to think it is. You're only 16 and he's 17. You may THINK you know, but trust me, you have no idea of what you want and you have no idea of what "love" means. This, this is NOT love. This is simply a guy taking advantage of a confused young lady. Now I don't mean to bash you, but the help you really need will not be found here. This requires the work of a professional, and you do need to inform your parents. You and I both know why you're not telling them. It's because they'll do the right thing, which is separate you from him..... permanently, turn him in to the cops, and send you to get evaluated by a doctor. You both need some serious help, I just hope you get some before he "loves" you again or any other girl for that matter.

[doppelgaenger]

it would never be hard to prove, she won't have to prove anything. basically she makes an innocent face goes down to the police station and blames her love and deep feelings for him for taking this long to file a restraining order or press charges.

BUT...if this story is actually true....then it seems to me that she actually didn't mind it that much. cuz if that was me, there would be screaming and yelling and probably gun shots fired right on the spot.

No kidding, what a little prick (no pun intended)

[Analeigh008]

@ Spoonandfork,

You're thinking vertical cuts down the skin; my cuts are horizontal across the skin. Since my thigh is bigger than my wrist, of course they would be longer. Sorry, I never clarified that, my fault. Most of the smaller sores (where the tacks were) are in that small area, though.

If I wore a thong, it wouldn't cover them up, you're right. But posting a picture of myself with my legs open (where the scars are) in a thong - or with a towel, whichever you prefer - is not my idea of "modesty"...it's not porn, but it isn't modest.

I simply cannot fathom why it's so difficult for you to grasp that I don't want to post a gross picture of myself in a thong, with scars, just for you. Or for this thread. Posting those kinds of pictures of yourself...they don't just go away. It's the internet. Words are words, but a picture is a picture. Apparently you know that they weigh differently, as you will not believe my words, but you'll believe a picture.

I'm done with this conversation. Like I said, you show everyone YOUR bloody picture and then maybe we'll deal - I can't think of a fairer option. You haven't helped so far, I don't think you will later. If I did post, what for? I've gotten a bunch of people flogging me with redundancy and a few helpful bits of advice. I don't know what you have to offer me that's worth it anyhow. Even if you had just asked for a picture of my face or my damned toenail, I wouldn't take it. Much less my inner thigh. It doesn't even sound right. I don't put pictures of myself all over the internet. If you do, have your fun - that's YOU.

And @ doppelgaenger...

Wilkos/Springer always came across as nonsense to me, which is why it evokes giggles. I've only seen it a few times...All I've seen are fat current or former prostitutes, sexually confused people, and KKK members. And how could I forget the dysfunctional families?...anyway, it's all theatrics. It's a TV show...I'm sorry, but they pick the most outrageous people for ratings. That's like me watching Criminal Minds or something on television dealing with a select group of deranged people, and applying that to someone in real life. If it's on TV and it's not the news, educational, or a professional documentary, I'm not taking it to heart.
I've honestly never heard anyone talk about Springer except in a joke. Not saying those people don't exist, but those people aren't us. We don't fight in front of cameras or even people we know...and I don't flash my boobs to audiences of cheering strangers...

Bleh...that one's already taken care of for you (parents part). I'm probably going to have to say something, as I don't want these to get infected and turn into a real problem and get sick. We lack neosporin in this house (%*#$!). I've been thinking about how to tell them all day without upsetting them, but I know better than to ask anyone how to go about doing that...

I'm trying to go one problem at a time - parent/teacher conference first (school issues). I can't just ask for bandages and neosporin, they'll want to know why I need it. F*** my life...so, yes, I don't have a choice.

I still insist on not ruining his life over this, though. My scars will heal. Going to jail would impact him a LOT more.
And what if he gets raped in prison? O.O
Hey, it happens.

@Sonrisa ...
I could understand why some people would have responded that way. I just didn't. Like I said, it was like a frozen feeling. I realize it was a step backward for me to forgive him so easily (that little scene in the bathroom). Which is my own problem - I don't think I can do without him. Speaking realistically, I probably can, but it's a long haul to change how you feel, especially if the feelings are strong and have been drawn out over a period of years spent with his friendship and then about half a year of being his girlfriend.

[doppelgaenger]

Wilkos/Springer always came across as nonsense to me, which is why it evokes giggles. I've only seen it a few times...All I've seen are fat current or former prostitutes, sexually confused people, and KKK members. And how could I forget the dysfunctional families?...anyway, it's all theatrics. It's a TV show...I'm sorry, but they pick the most outrageous people for ratings. That's like me watching Criminal Minds or something on television dealing with a select group of deranged people, and applying that to someone in real life. If it's on TV and it's not the news, educational, or a professional documentary, I'm not taking it to heart.
I've honestly never heard anyone talk about Springer except in a joke. Not saying those people don't exist, but those people aren't us. We don't fight in front of cameras or even people we know...and I don't flash my boobs to audiences of cheering strangers...

lol, um, did it ever occur to you that your story is so ridiculous, so outrageous, that this is something I among others would expect to see on Jerry Springer? People here think you're just trolling around trying to stir up some commotion. This story makes teenage prostitutes seem like diligent little schoolgirls. No offense, it's just that ****ed up, especially the part about you being incapable (according to you) of doing something about it.

[Analeigh008]

Spoonandfork...

Your suspicions are unfounded. I've answered every question you've thrown at me. Throw me another, I'll answer it as best as I can. The one thing I wouldn't do was post a picture.

I've forgotten the website, but I'll find it - it was DV victims' discussion/support forum. I didn't post there because I don't know if my issue is considered "domestic" because we're not married or family. But the stories on there weren't exactly bright.

NO ONE posted pictures (that I saw). No one even asked for pictures as "proof". I'm sure not everyone uses their real name. Do you think they have a "Show off your wounds" picture thread up???

Go over there and call them liars once I get the URL for you, clever one. Go tell them their stories are fictional. See how well received you are in that environment. I have a gut feeling you won't, though. Find any abuse forum - spousal (male OR female), sexual, emotional, whatever - and try it. I'll even seek out a whole list for you if you will, just so I can watch

I don't feel obligated to show you anything. I offered you a deal, you've apparently rejected it, and that's it. A thigh for a thigh, a scar for a scar You ain't Buddha, pal.

[doppelgaenger]

Yeah, don't post your pictures here, because god forbid, your bf might be a member here and he might save them to his desktop and jerk off to them.

[MerryH]

Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline as soon as possible. Here's their number: 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)

It doesn't matter that you don't live with him, they can help you. If you don't believe me, then just call them and ask them. If you're not the type of person they help, no harm no foul. Just call. Do it now.

[Analeigh008]

When did I say I was incapable of doing something about it?...what is "it" referring to? What happened or WHY it happened?...Sorry, just need clarification.

[Sonrisa]

Spoonandfork...

Your suspicions are unfounded. I've answered every question you've thrown at me. Throw me another, I'll answer it as best as I can. The one thing I wouldn't do was post a picture.

I've forgotten the website, but I'll find it - it was DV victims' discussion/support forum. I didn't post there because I don't know if my issue is considered "domestic" because we're not married or family. But the stories on there weren't exactly bright.

NO ONE posted pictures (that I saw). No one even asked for pictures as "proof". I'm sure not everyone uses their real name. Do you think they have a "Show off your wounds" picture thread up???

Go over there and call them liars once I get the URL for you, clever one. Go tell them their stories are fictional. See how well received you are in that environment. I have a gut feeling you won't, though. Find any abuse forum - spousal (male OR female), sexual, emotional, whatever - and try it. I'll even seek out a whole list for you if you will, just so I can watch

I don't feel obligated to show you anything. I offered you a deal, you've apparently rejected it, and that's it. A thigh for a thigh, a scar for a scar You ain't Buddha, pal.

actually i do remember some people posting pictures of their hurt body part.

[Mish]

To the OP, sorry you had the misfortunte of reading those gullible posts by Spooning Dork. He has been infracted for his comments and offending posts deleted. He is one infraction away from his second temporary ban so if he posts anything else even remotely objectionable please report his post and I will take care of the rest.

[Analeigh008]

I've covered why I didn't post in DV. I posted here because this is a love forum and I do love him. I didn't come to 'talk' about it, although I've had to explain things to people...I came for specific advice. Is this not the "Advice" subcategory of the forum? Have I been posting this in the wrong place the whole time? lol back at you.

actually i do remember some people posting pictures of their hurt body part.

Did you ridicule anyone who did NOT post a picture? Did you accuse them of lying? Just curious. The key word here is SOME.

Anyway, I did re-find one of the URLs I looked over a while ago:

[url]http://www.psychforums.com/domestic-abuse/[/url] > Domestic Violence

Now go insist that pictures be mandatory. Good luck.

[Sonrisa]

how lovely of you to insult me, Miss Anya, after you infract me for changing another member's username. What happened to mods exemplifying the very rules they enforce?

wait. whose user name was changed?

[Sonrisa]

I was infracted for calling PP "Petite Papsmillion." The reason cited was "inappropriate language" yet it's ok for a mod to call me "Spooning Dork"

yeah, I must agree with you here. Misha, come on, you're supposed to be an example to us all.