7 years ago. What about now?

[seshirure]

Good morning! (It's 2am here)


I really want to clear up my mind so i want to share to you a story in which i am currently involved. It's about me and my ex-girlfriend.

7 years ago we are committed to our relationship when suddenly she disappeared with no reason at all. It was just like *Poof! and then she's gone.

After 7 years, accidentally we regain our connection and she told me everything. She doesn't know that she was pregnant with her ex-boyfriend before our relationship started that made her decide to leave me because she was scared that i won't accept her. She doesn't want me to get hurt so that's the reason why she left long ago.

Now, we have our own relationships but both unmarried. Apparently, old days comes back together with the feelings we have before. We decided to commit ourselves to each other again though hidden to everyone.

We both love each other. It's not just about anything, It's everything for us. I love her as well as her daughter even if it's not mine.

The problem is we don't want our legal partners to get hurt in which i'm pretty sure will happen, so we really don't know what to do now. We wanted to tell them about us so that we will be free from our legal relationships. I know it's a selfish idea, but to me it's better to tell them as early as possible to avoid more pain to them.

Any suggestions about how and what to tell them?

[xxazurexx]

I think that the worst thing you could do, is to ditch your current partner for a cheating ex girlfriend who went behind your back and cheated on you with her ex and got herself pregnant. Not only is she a cheater....she also has no troubles totally abandoning people who love her.

I'm wondering why she decided to show her face again and come clean several years later? Did her daughters dad abandon her, so she comes running back to you after all this time looking for sympathy and forgiveness.

Who is to say that she won't go behind your back again with some other man, get herself pregnant and then POOF....disappears again.

I'd be thinking long and hard before you decide to ditch your partner for this other woman.

[xxazurexx]

I'm also thinking, she's a cheater, you are a cheater.....maybe you do deserve each other.

I wish ya luck, you are gonna need it.

[Ariadne]

I'm also thinking, she's a cheater, you are a cheater.....maybe you do deserve each other.

I wish ya luck, you are gonna need it.

This. Nothing more to really say about it.

[seshirure]

It was really an accident that we regain contact again, It was unexpected.
Her daughter's dad didn't abandoned her. She decided not to marry the guy because he was not responsible enough.
The guy cares about her but not their own baby. The guy told her before "When it was only the two of us, everything's ok" <- It seems like he regrets what he have done which is the baby. That made her furious.

[seshirure]

and let me clearly say that she doesn't know that she was pregnant with her "EX-BF" when our relationship started.
it seems that you assumed she got pregnant at the time we are committed in our relationship.

Yeah i know, call me a cheater and it's true but i never wanted it to be that way.

[Ariadne]

It was really an accident that we regain contact again

But it wasn't an accident when you decided to get back together behind your respective partners' backs.

[xxazurexx]

Yeah i know, call me a cheater and it's true but i never wanted it to be that way.

You always had a choice and you chose to cheat.

[seshirure]

@xxazurexx & Ariadne - You're right. I've chosen what is wrong in every man's eye, but that doesn't mean i am terribly bad. right? I just followed what my heart feels. I really don't know what to do right now. I am terribly confused.

Anyway, thanks for sharing your thoughts about my situation. It's just that not too easy for me what course of action should we do.

[xxazurexx]

^Like I said, good luck, you are gonna need it.