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    She never wants to get together, what does this mean???

    There is this girl that I have been talking to and hanging out with for quite so time. Every time I do end up hanging out with her I always seem to make her laugh and have a good time. A couple times I also opened my car door for her and she immediately texted her best friend (who texted me like a minute later saying that was sweet, so that must of been a good move on my part.) Compared to her best friend's body language, her hugs are more compassionate too. And she even said one night that for the few minutes she saw me it made her day.

    The problem is that whenever I ask, except maybe once, she seems to be busy or can't meet with me. For example today she said she could probably meet after she was done with what she had to do. I just asked her and she replied..."and i can't tonight. i have to finish a project and i'm reeeeally exhausted. maybe another time lol"

    Which starts to piss me off and also make me alittle depressed, is there anything I'm doing wrong? How do I respond to that text she gave me?

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    What does it mean when someone never wants to get together or is busy all the time?

    The obvious really, they aren't interested in 'that' way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xxazurexx View Post
    What does it mean when someone never wants to get together or is busy all the time?

    The obvious really, they aren't interested in 'that' way.
    But she has hung out with me before alone

    What can I atleast say to her when she says she is busy...everytime she does I get locked up and just say something like maybe another time and the conversation ends.....WHAT CAN I SAY?!?!?!?

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    Quote Originally Posted by R0aDRuNN3R5 View Post
    But she has hung out with me before alone
    Makes no difference - she might just see you as a friend.

    I'd hang out with a guy if we were mates, but if I didn't see him in 'that' way and I was sensing he wanted more, I'd elope to the hills.

    What can I atleast say to her when she says she is busy...everytime she does I get locked up and just say something like maybe another time and the conversation ends.....WHAT CAN I SAY?!?!?!?
    Nothing you can say. You can't force someone not to be busy.

    Busy is an EXCUSE and if she wasn't using the busy excuse she would use another classic line, like uhm 'I'm not looking for a relationship right now' or 'I have a lot of shit going on in my life right now'.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xxazurexx View Post
    Makes no difference - she might just see you as a friend.

    I'd hang out with a guy if we were mates, but if I didn't see him in 'that' way and I was sensing he wanted more, I'd elope to the hills.



    Nothing you can say. You can't force someone not to be busy.

    Busy is an EXCUSE and if she wasn't using the busy excuse she would use another classic line, like uhm 'I'm not looking for a relationship right now' or 'I have a lot of shit going on in my life right now'.
    Well I didn't mean anything to make her want to hang out but there has to be something better to get a message across

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    ^Sounds to me and from what you say, that you can't make it any clearer to her that you'd like to take her out.

    But she is sending a very clear message that she isn't interested - well IMO she is anyway.

    Only you aint taking the hint.

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    Doesn't look like she is showing clear signs of anything, you still have a chance with this girl. Send her a text and ask if she'd like to hangout sometime, try to plan something, be a bit more aggressive.

    Don't live your life thinking "what if?". Try your luck out, be funny, be relaxed and most of all make her feel comfortable.

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    ^He's asked her out more than once and she makes excuses each time.

    If he keeps on asking, it will make him appear a lovesick desperate puppy - how many more times does she have to refuse before he takes the hint and gets the message?

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    Quote Originally Posted by R0aDRuNN3R5 View Post
    How do I respond to that text she gave me?
    You say "Ok, that's cool. Let me know if you want to go out next time you're free." And leave it at that.

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