In Love With 2 People at the Same Time?
I am in love with two people, at the same time, and it is simply torture. I know some people will say that one is love, the other is lust, but I only know what my heart is telling me. I just don't know what to do, it's hard, and complicated, and I just need to vent, and ask for some anonymous advice.
The Details:
I am 25, have dated the same girl for more than a year now. we'll call her Sarah (not her real name). Sarah is a great girl, we have literally nothing in common, but that makes it fun at times...at other times it makes it torture. I told her I loved her 9 months ago, and I meant it, oh God did I. At that moment I was the happiest man in the world, she said she loved me as well, and I felt as if I were on a cloud. Months passed and we still loved each other, we still do, but we drifted a bit. She moved a bit further away, it's mainly phone calls and texts now, but we still have the foundation of love that has been set for over a year.
Ok, so we've met Sarah. Let's call the other girl Paula. So, I have known Paula for 3 or 4 years, we had a fling a while back, we have kept in sporadic contact since, but I have always thought about her, some people you just can't forget, or truly leave behind. We started talking again, quite recently, and I honestly never expected anything to come of it...I knew she was special, and I knew I was in love with Sarah, so I figured, "what the hell, we should meet up again, I miss her." When I met with her it was simply amazing, I took one look at her and couldn't look away the rest of the night. I was happier than then I have been in years, or ever.
So, the answer is easy, right? Paula would be the one to go with? Well, it's not that simple.
I still love Sarah, but have everything in common with Paula. Literally everything we like is the same, if you were to quiz us we would probably answer the same 8/10 times. Sarah and I have a good foundation but it's starting to feel like maybe we are just two people who love each other, but aren't right for each other. Paula, on the other hand, is a breath of fresh air, but she is more of a free spirit, and may break my heart, whilst Sarah will always be there.....is that a horrible what to look at it?
I know Sarah loves me, and I feel Paula loves me, and I feel like an awful person for loving two people at once, as I'm sure someone will end up getting hurt, but I can't help how I feel.
Love is magical and amazing, but it also hurts more than anything I've ever experienced, now I have love x2, and it's only that much harder.
~~~The question~~~
Have you been in a similar situation?
How did you handle it?
What are your general thoughts on the relationships I described?