ive been told my whole life that i'm a beautiful, smart, funny girl that has everything going for me. for the most part, i DO believe it. but i've noticed something about myself that has been apart of me for as long as i can remember.. i always doubt the people i care most about's love for me. i always fear and think that i love someone more than they love me, so i back off or act stuck up towards them. like when i was little i was super attached to my mom but i never thought she loved me as much as i loved her cause she had 5 kids to take care of that at the time needed more attention. so i tried to make her think i didnt really care about her.. that happens to me in friendships, relationships with boys, and sometimes even people i just meet but really like. now im with my boyfriend of one year and i NEVER doubted his love for me, i never felt the need to act stand offish towards him until two recent break ups he initiated (we got back together). now i all of a sudden feel the need to show him that he's not all that important to me and i dont need him, even tho i do desperately. other than that, im actually OVERLY confident in myself. i feel superior to people and like i can have any boy i want, until i get him and actually fall in love. then i doubt that love.
some history that may have something to do with this: my parents divorced when i was 4 years old and i was raised with the influence that my dad was not a good man and i felt like i shouldn't like or love him. my dad ALWAYS told/tells me he loves, but he does not in any way show me he does. he's never been apart of my life. i tell myself i hate my father and dont love him, but deep down i sometimes question that. i think i just wish i had a dad that acted like a dad. this might not have anything to do with my insecurity issues in relationships, when i think about my dad i truly do believe i do not love him at all, but is that even possible?