When is it time to walk away?

[loveless_wonder]

I've been with my boyfriend nearly two years. It's been a rocky road but I think he is finally trying to make this relationship last. However, he has a drinking problem and has cheated three times in the past. I know it sounds silly for me to still be in this relationship but I'm no angel myself and I too have some secrets. The whole time I've been with my boyfriend I've been getting close to another man. He's a friend of mine that I've known since I was twelve years old. I know that a relationship between him and I will never be possible. There are a number of reasons for this. But, I can't help but feel like my new found feelings for this man are a red flag that it's time for me to end the relationship that I'm in. So here is my question: Should I forget about the new guy and keep on loving my boyfriend of two years despite our terrible past? Or is it time to walk away and see who else is out there?

[lostandstuck]

Do you believe he will change? If he is finally treating you better it might be worth it to try but his track record isn't great : / I would seriously consider cutting those strings.

[damn2010]

Sounds like BOTH of you are not good for each other and you keep secrets and such behind each others backs! That's not a relationship!

You should've left him after he cheated the first time, and now you're proving you're no better than he is by seeing someone else behind his back. I wouldn't EVER want to date a hypocrite like you.

[Confused81]

It's time to walk away.

Sounds like you bring out the worst in each other.

Your relationship is not how a relationship should be. My advice is to walk away and BE ON YOUR OWN for a while.

[Liam_680]

its time to walk away. the fact that you start to have feelings for someone else means your bf do not give you what you need anymore because of his own faults.

[loveless_wonder]

Must you be so rude? People come here sound advice, not to be judged. How dare you.

[Gratedwasabi]

The answer to your question "when is it time to walk away?" is when either person develops feelings for someone else. If he cheated three times, he'll cheat again; it's his nature. Like telling a fish not to swim.

It's not surprising you developed feelings for someone else considering you probably felt constantly betrayed and looked for comfort elsewhere, I would, too. Leave him and be on your own for a bit, try to avoid using someone else as a rebound, intentionally or not.