Hello all:
I just wanted to get an overall opinion from a mix of people. Growing up, i was always told that i'm such a nice, good kid and it honestly drove me crazy more and more as i got older. In the meantime throughout high school, i watched as a lot of my friends, the one's w/ the badass attitudes were getting some pretty smiooking hot girls around them, while my female success was limited.when i got to college, i stepped back and analyzed why it was and realized that being the "nice guy" probably wasn't cutting it for me and then i really made it a point to come across w/ more of a cocky, arrogant attitude and not being so nice. I started hitting the gym religiously and liftinng to help w/ my confidence and i become more and more eager for confrontations w/ people, and even provoking fights & bar fights at parties around campus and at bars. I tried to become the badass as much as i knew how to and i noticed that girls would at least pay attention to me more now b/c i guess i was more interesting for them.....fast forward a few years down the line and i'm in my late 20's now trying to progress a career and the fact that i can't seem to hold on to a relationship for a very long period of time and the feedback i get from a lot of my relationships is that i'm as stubborn as a mule and i have a bit of an ego problem and that i could listen better. I'm starting to wonder if maybe i should make an attempt to be more like i was back in middle school and high school and be more of the nice guy w/ girls again.....what do u think?? Am i better off playing the cocky, arrogant badass card w/ a good side to him deep down or going back to being more of the "nice guy" and less of a badass??