are guys allowed to be emotional?

[Yet another guy]

You haven't said anything about her reaction. For all I know, she hasn't noticed your sobbing. She might not even think that your childish response was a big problem. If she is upset, tell her that you are sorry and explain that the change of plans was not a big deal. Also tell her why what she said hurt you. If that doesn't help, she is an unpleasant person.

[justcheckin]

I did explain to her what I was thinking. I told her how it hurt me that she though I was making plans for her, when it was something we were both deciding. The real "problem" now is that I feel like I cant let it go. Every second I think about how stupid I was and I know if anything, THAT is going to be the reason something happens. We have talked since then, and I am going to take her to lunch now.

BTW her reaction was pretty much silence. She isnt very emotional at all unfortunately. She agreed she used the wrong choice of words, (after I explained why what she said made me so upset), and that everything is ok between us.

but I dont believe her?? (Thats probably the root of the real issue?)

[Yet another guy]

Ooh, now I see. I have to return to what I said earlier. Try not to be so insecure. Work on it... somehow.

[justcheckin]

Thanks for your help BTW. I have battled with insecurities my entire life. I wish I could figure out a way to forget them. The way my mind works is once an event happens (like the one yesterday morning) I will harp on it until I get SOME kind of actual physical result. Weather its her breaking up with me or her saying "its ok" and giving me a kiss or something. Either way, I will harp and harp and harp until something happens. How do I avoid something like that? I am aware I do it... yet I have no control over it.

[Yet another guy]

Just make yourself let go. If you catch yourself doing it, tell yourself "NO, bad boy!" and try again. That's the only thing I can come up. Believe me, I'm the least qualified person to advice how to get rid of insecurities.

[Junket]

I guess I was acting like a child. What SHOULD I do then if I get hurt that bad by something she says? Just clam up and not say anything? I feel like that would be more immature then actually being upset.

Learn to not be a pussy and you won't have those feelings to begin with.