Hi just looking for a bit of advice as I dont know where else to turn really.
I have been with my husband for 12 years and he has always had a temper,never pyhsically towards me but he has punched doors etc in the past.
I suppose I must have ignored it to a point over the years,but recently we have been going through a bad patch arguing a lot,and something must have snapped inside me because I have become much more assertive with him for example he always walks out when we argue and knows I would panic and go out after him,well now I have come to the point where i wont and I think let him go hes playing games.
last night we argued again,he walked out half hour passed my 5yr old was crying so I phoned him saying "where are you" he says "out walking and I am not coming back tell the kids what you like because you wont see me again" I replied by asking "what about your son? hes crying what do aia say to him?" he didnt seem to care and seemed to enjoy seeing me distressed and almost begging (for my sons sake) that if he loved me and his son he would come home and do this properly.
I got the feeling he was trying to control me thorugh my son and he didnt care who he hurt as long a s he felt he was in charge of the situation.
I am really starting to resent him and think he may be a control freak he never says sorry when he snaps and loses his temper and seems to think we can just carry on as normal,but I feel so hurt and disrespected.
I would like to tell him to go for good but worry about my son
Please Help