Originally Posted by
FNM
Clearly, I'm flogging a dead horse here - I get the strong impression that you already know how you want to handle the whole situation and you're just searching for approval from others. People have given you good advice, on this thread and your other - none of them are telling you to keep contacting and pestering her. It just isn't a good idea.
Nevertheless, I'll try and justify my advice one last time:
Over the past few days, you've been texting this girl a lot, right? But her reciprocation is nowhere near the level that indicates that she likes you - in fact, it seems that she's not really into you at all. She's ignoring texts and she's not biting when you offer to take her out. I don't care how shy she is and I couldn't care if you're in a retirement home or kindergarten, dude - if she likes you, even a little bit, she would text you back, she would take you up on your date offer. Alright, she's ill right now (is that even for sure?), but she'd be making an effort to arrange something for when she's better.
So, we've established that she just isn't into you right now. At this point, you can cut your losses and give up on her, forget she exists (definitely the best idea). Or, if you really have to, you can keep trying - I wouldn't advise it though.
If you are going to try and win her over, you need to come across as a guy with way higher value than you are right now. It might seem like a 'harmless text' to ask how her day is, but it quite simply isn't. You're showing her that she's in your mind, which is fine when you're in a relationship, but you aren't, not even close. Not only that, but you're not showing her that your a guy who has plenty of other things to care about.
So, you need to show her what a great, valuable guy you are. Now, you can't do this immediately, because it would be too much of a transition from your neediness. You need to stay out of her way for a while. She'll begin to forget you being this needy, unattractive guy and after a while you can come back and show her that you're actually a cool person, with lots going for you. You can demonstrate that whatever happens between the two of you is no big deal - she's going to be 10000% more attracted to you if she thinks that she has little to no influence over your mood. But right now, this constant texting and asking out is just showing her that she defines your life, and that is going to be so unattractive to her.
If I were you, I'd follow my advice, or anyone else's advice on here - it's better than your own plan. But if you want to do what you want to do, do it. I guarantee that you will fail. Guarantee.