I don't understand...

[Virgo84]

My now husband and I have been together for almost 6 years now, and married for 1. It seems like for about the past year, he has completely lost interest in me sexually. I put it off to the fact that he did have weight loss surgery, but that was over a year and a half ago. and still nothing. I tried to instigate things, to get things going and he would just roll over so his back was to me, or push me away. We went to couples counseling and when I brought it up, he said sex was not important to him any more. We have been living more like roommates than husband and wife, and I don't know what to do at this point. When is enough enough? Any thoughts on this would be appreciated!

[MerryH]

He told you flat out that he doesn't care about sex. And he's apparently not willing to work on it. It's not going to get better if he's not going to change.

I don't know, you tell us, when is enough enough?

[goody2shoes]

It may not be as simple as he is genuinely not interested in sex.


Has he always opened up to you? Or is he sort of a man who keeps all his problems to himself?


Also, does he still show affection? (for instance, hugs, holding hands, and kisses)


My ex and I, we got on really well but no sex after several years. I thought it was just the way we worked but we ended up breaking up. We had tuned into housemates than a couple (Like you said)


You stated that he is not interested in sex "any more". Maybe you could try finding out what caused him to lose the interest.