I know it's different for every case whether to give someone a second chance or not, but I could really use some advice. So here's the situation...
Me and "Greg" started talking in the summer of 2010, probably in August. Ever since we've met we've talked every single day.
We first hung out at the end of September before he was leaving for the Army. It was me, my friend, him and his friend. We went to a movie and it was fine, not too exciting but ok. Then he was off to the Army and he sweetly asked if I would write him while he was there because there would be no phones or internet obviously. So we wrote each other for the next two months and he got back home in December, but only for 2 weeks. He had to go to one of the Carolina's to visit family for Christmas so by the time he got back we only had the chance to hang out once. We went to another movie just the two of us and then I only gave him a hug. I would have liked to kiss him I was just too nervous. New Years is next. He told me he was going to his friend's apartment for a party. I was totally cool with that because I wanted to stay in with my older sister who was also leaving in a couple days. Then a couple days later he left, only this time for 6 months. It a real struggle with him being away all the time so that in itself is hard.
From there we continue to talk, obviously we're pretty much together but without the label. He tells me he got me a Christmas present/Valentines day present. I finally get it about January 19th. It was a necklace from Kay Jewelers, beautiful! I loved it, and he sent a card with it asking if I would be his. I said yes and we made it official Friday the 21st. The next night I received an email through Facebook that he had also been talking to another girl. I asked him about it and he denied if for hours that night. The next morning the girl emails again telling me they had sex at the New Years party and that she had texts from him proving it. So I asked if we could meet so I could see for myself.
After receiving that email I immediately text him and asked him about it. Denied it again. Then I said she had the texts and she was willing to meet and show them to me. I then asked him if he had anything to say before that happened and that's when he admitted it to me. It broke my heart.
Now I don't know if I should give him a second chance or not because technically we weren't dating when it happened but I pretty much thought we were together. When he admitted it I put my status as back to single and he was very upset about it. He is also heartbroken at the thought of losing me and is willing to do anything not to let that happen. I really like him and want to try to make it work, but I think about him and her all the time and I'm sad all the time. What should I do?
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