So a girl that I have had a off and on again relationship for the last year is confusing me. We stopped seeing each other during the summer but she ended up reaching out to me through some hard time she was having. I made my self clear that I felt much more than friendship and thats what I wanted, however I would be there as a friend for now. We have a great time together and everything feels so natural when we put our guards down. She just got out of a bad relationship and I didnt want to push anything however in the next few monthes we grew closer and then ended up kissing and making out a few times. She then ended up saying she just didnt have that feeling taht she needed to date me...and I told her that I respect that but I cant just be her friend it to hard. I stopped contact but she keeps coming back saying that she needs me in her life because i mean so! much to her and she cant lose me. I kept telling her that it cant work because we both want different things...bbut she keeps making contact. It seems that she cant go more than a few days without reaching out...its hard but I am trying to ignore her to let her be without me for a while.
I just dont know if she means what she say when she say I just dont feel that spark, or if she just does not know what she has untill she loses it?