Hi my name is Kevz. I am relatively new to forums and I am looking for some relationship advice.
Short Background story: I met my current girlfriend about 4 months ago, about 2 months ago she had to leave the country for an internship in her home country. She was a foreign exchange student at my University. About one month ago after talking on the phone every night for a month I finally decided to tell her my feelings for her. My first reaction was not to since when we said our goodbyes it was already sad enough. I told her I never really got over her and told her that I wanted to try a distance relationship; something she suggested earlier and I dismissed as hopeless. We have been dating for almost a month now talking by phone and skype.
The problem: A few days ago our relationship got even more complicated. After our usual night phone call telling each other about our days she wanted to talk about our relationship. At first she said I need to talk to you about our relationship. She started to blame herself for not being able to answer some of my phone calls and felt like she was being an inadequate girlfriend. (She is a medical student in her home country) I told her it wasn't a problem and told her that it was something I accepted as part of our relationship and that I did not want her to feel even more pressured when she is currently swamped with studying for tests and 12+ hr work days. Afterwords she started talking about how our relationship hasn't felt much like a relationship, in which I agreed because of the distance and her time restraints it is hard for us to get to know each other. I then asked her was it just the distance and the time constraints or was it that she was losing feelings for me and wanted to break up with me. She said it was just the distance and time and that she loved me and wish I was there right now with her. The true nature of her phone call came apparent when she then said that if the relationship was to fall apart due to the uncontrollable circumstances (such as the distance and time constraints) would I still be her friend and call her every night since she said I was her best friend and was afraid of losing me. She said she worries about me getting frustrated with the situation and one day never calling her again. I promised I always would and asked her if she wanted to continue our relationship. She said yes but said we would have to take things slowly for obvious reasons, and perhaps stretch out the initial stages of our relationship until I come visit her this May.
I know I have known this girl for only a short time, but she is also my best friend, the girl I love, and the girl I want to be with. How can I try to make our relationship closer online? I am a undergraduate college student myself, but I would do anything to be with her. I have not told her about this yet since she has a big exam coming up next week but I am considering joining a local volunteer organization in her home city. There is no guarantee I would get the job but the qualifications the website lists I have prior experience and good references. I cannot relocate due to school, but I could do the next best thing and become a volunteer helping poor children in the city where I could further learn her language, get a new perspective on life, and be able to spend my evenings and weekends with the girl I love. Any advice welcome!