Originally Posted by
Huggles
So... If a guy says you're close friends and wants to go out together, talks to you loads daily by phone/ messages for over a year and would like to have sex with you but says he doesn't want a relationship yet, then what do you call it? What does it mean? He basically happy to have all relationship entails even the bad bits but just not put a label on it. He's not using me for sex before you suggest that as haven't slept with him. He says he needs to sort his life out before a relationship as lost his job and in bit of mess. This doesn't seem a reason to me cos if you want someone you want them!
If you DO have sex with him, my guess is that whatever sort of contact you have with him now will end.
Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?