I need some advice... It took some time to find out that I have feelings for a colleague (X). We work under the same direction, but on another department and building. We both are not in a relationship. I work there for two year, he for about nine years. When we see each other, we say hello and sometimes have a little conversation (on my initiative). He is very insecure with women (according to colleagues).
In 2010, we occasionally ate together at the cafeteria, totally about 5-6 times throughout the year. First he was obviously not at ease, but after the third time he started to talk a little with me. When I see him with his (male) colleagues, he is in his comfort zone, is making jokes and chatting. My colleague, who regularly co-works with a male colleague of X, said one day that X inquired after me. Since that day his male-colleagues are teasing him with me. Which is very funny of course as X's head turns red every time my name drops, so he's an easy target.
A month ago one of X's co-workers even asked me if I had hooked X. (I saw X hiding away.) I was flabbergasted with this improper question, however replied that there was no X and myself. On my way home that day, I ran in to X and he greeted me saying my first name for the first time with a big smile. We both went on in our own direction. Two weeks later, my company had a big X-mas party. I went there, X's co-worker was also there and said that X couldn't make it because of a training. Later that night - the wine made him talkative I guess - he said that he always is teasing X with me and that X didn't dare to come to the party anymore. I asked my colleague what to make of this. She didn't know and asked my feelings. I said that I like X, but I do not know him enough to make more of it now. My colleague adviced me, when I am interested in X, to take a chance and go for him.
Well, since it seemed that I am the only one who is bothered that X is a colleague, a week ago I took a shot and I sent him a X-Mas card with an invitation for a drink after work with my private number. Well hey, I am not so courageous myself. So far, he didn't respond. Now I am beginning to wonder if the guy is in to me or not. What do you think? I decided to give him a little time to make up his mind -and make a move- do you think that I should make another move?