You are looking at this all wrong. Men have massive amounts of testosterone, which in turn gives them major sex drives. His watching pron has absolutely nothing to do with you. Men release a lot of stress through orgasm. And he amount of sexual tension they carry vs. a woman is insane. Sometimes just letting it out with good visual stimulation is what works. Could he have woken you up, sure. But sometimes reaching orgasm on your own is just nice. And quicker, and straight t the point. I watch porn and am a woman. I do it to help me get off, that simple. And sometimes I prefer just that. He is not doing it to hurt you in any way. You need to start to look at it differently. It has nothing to do with his relationship with you. And takes nothing away from his love for you either. Men have drives that need to be taken care of. And sometimes doing it alone is what one might need at the moment. If he stopped having sex with you completely, and became 100% addicted to porn, then worry. Until then, just let the guy be. Let him do his thing. He is a man, you are not going to change that. You are not going to take that drive away, so let him handle it how he choses fit. You act like he is cheating on you, and that is not so. Would you be mad if he was masturbating without porn? If not, all you are complaining about is his visual stimulation, and that seems silly.